Tuesday, January 7, 2014

When did it stop being okay to be a Man?

To make sense of what I'm saying maybe I should start by telling you I was 2 years old in 1950. Back then, things were much different than now. Men went to war, got Battle Fatigue came home and often drank themselves to death, were confused by what they experienced in World War II, were Steak and potatoes men and often if they didn't drink themselves to death by 40 they died by eating a steak by 40 and then just going to sleep and not waking up. That was the lives of many men who were not college educated then in the1950s. This was the way it really was especially in blue collar men I knew through my father from his work and some more through my church then in the 1950s. I watched closely how women often weren't treated very well even though men were trying mostly as best they knew then.

So, then Men took the burdens of life and died young because of these burdens. Women were left mostly with not getting pregnant until they were married (whether they wanted to or not to someone) who might even financially support them. Men tried to shield women from the harsher things of life so they might raise their kids without scaring the kids to death with their stories before they were 10.

So, the severe harshness of life then was shielded from women and children as much as men could then. This cost many men their lives over the years.

When Women wanted more equal rights this sort of confused men at first. I remember many of these men talking about it. There point of view likely could be summed up like this: "Well. If we give women more rights maybe we'll get laid more." This is about where men were then on this subject.

Then the Viet Nam War happened and this confused my generation and more young men my exact age died in this war than men of any other age. I sort of took this personally, especially because I didn't have to serve in the Viet Nam War because I had almost already died of Childhood Epilepsy so I wouldn't be called up unless the U.S. was attacked in an all out war for our nation's survival.

Starting about 1965 or earlier young men who were intelligent enough started going to college and then staying in for Master's degrees or PHds so they wouldn't have to go to Viet Nam to die in the rice paddies or come home and wander the streets like many homeless young men who never recovered from their experiences then or now.

When all these young men went to college all those intelligent young women followed them to college to get educated successful husbands. So, pretty soon we had a higher percentage of college educated men and women than we had ever had before. We also had the wealth as a nation to educate everyone then so this greatly expanded the possibilities for everyone job wise and career wise then all the way to now.

But, somewhere along the torturous way to now it became not okay to be a man and to think like a man. We moved into what is called Political Correctness and what I call Surrealism and away from any basic realities.

I understand this point of view much like I understand International diplomacy in that political correctness is mostly about telling lies to prevent violence. Just like International Diplomacy is telling lies to prevent wars and mass deaths.

But, somewhere in the process of all this it became wrong to be a man and to have your own opinion about everything. So, in regard to almost anything men aren't supposed to say ever what they really think (unless of course they are ONLY in the company of other men). In some ways it has always been this way. But now, it has become even more crazy in that most people in most situations now require these lies to be spoken rather than truth.

So, as a man it is obvious to me it is only a matter of when and no longer IF before this whole political correctness things blows up in the whole world's face and becomes something no one can deal with as in a violent uprising or war.

There is a point of realism that is sort of like what  Chamberlane dealt with with Hitler. Without enough realpolitik the world will completely come apart.

Without enough truth in addition to diplomacy and enough men still being men and not just being politically correct puppets this world can't survive much longer.

I have realized for some time that real men don't do well in the ways present colleges function. So, this political correctness is more the domain of women or men who think like women. So, until this surrealistic point of view changes I see the world as out of balance and therefore in physical jeapordy of not being realistic enough to survive very long.

However, as realism enters the world things likely will sort themselves out through time. We have always had interesting cycles of the ways men and women dress and the ways they treat each other down through the centuries.

In the end life is about survival and people in the end will either choose to survive or they won't.

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