You have to learn to be practical.
My father always stressed practicality and I found it sort of boring unless it had to do with surviving in the wilderness or skiing or climbing mountains or surfing or going amazing places. Otherwise, I really wasn't that interested in practicality, I was interested in idealism and ideas.
However, in the end all the practicality my father stressed I had to go back to during my 20s in order to survive to 30. By 30 I was a father raising my son by myself who was then 3 years old. So, practicality kept me alive, helped me start businesses to support my son. And this practicality also allowed me to marry my 2nd wife at age 32 and to buy land and to build a house together.
So, all your idealism is good but it won't keep you alive. Zen monks are taught "Carry Water Chop Wood" because historically all your realized states of consciousness don't mean anything if you are dead because you froze to death (because you didn't get wood for your fire or stove) or you didn't get water for washing or cooking because there weren't pipes for water then only buckets from a stream or river.
So, practicality like "How am I going to survive the winter when it snows?"
Or "Where am I going to get money for food?"
Or "Do I need an education if I ever want to get married and have children?"
Or "Do I want to stay alive at all?"
So, in order to survive into your 30s and beyond you have to be practical enough to ask practical questions that will actually keep yourself, your significant other and your children alive and well.
Otherwise, possibly none of you are going to be alive after 30.
So, idealism and dreams are great, but in the meantime you have to find a way to stay alive for right now and the next year, and the next year.
If you see people over 30 they have either learned this or they are being taken care of by someone who is practical.
No one is alive after 30 who isn't either practical or being taken care of by someone who is practical.
It just doesn't happen.
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