In being kind to yourself you also learn how to be kind to others

Why?

Because if you are kind to yourself your suffering begins to lessen as if you are re-parenting yourself and this kindness that you wanted (but might not have received from your parents) heals your soul from the compassion you are now showing yourselves.

Through this method one also learns how to be compassionate to others as well.

However, depending upon the type of personality you have enlightenment is obtained (experienced) by either helping yourselves through compassion or helping others through compassion or both.

By God's Grace