Don't let the harm other people do to you define your reality

By Forgiving them and moving on and going somewhere that they are not you disempower people who harmed you before. This can lead to forgiving them and yourself. You are forgiving yourself to be naive enough to have been harmed by them in the first place. If these things happened as a child it's of course easier to deal with than what happens in our teens or in our 20s in that you could not be expected to know more than you did.

Because: "You don't know what you know until you know it".

The above is a very powerful statement.

It fits in with what my father told me about making decisions as a boy in the 1950s.

He said to me: "You will have to make decisions for the rest of your life and you NEVER will have enough information about anything to actually make a perfect decision about anything. So, all you can do is to make the best decision with whatever information you have at the time."

However, you  should give yourself the right to change your mind whenever new information arises that changes things."

In other words you cannot really be held accountable for things you didn't know at the time when you made that decision. It's true some people might hold you accountable anyway but in the end it's up to you to change things when you learn more about anything. This is what it is called to actually be an adult and not just a child pretending to be an adult like most people seem to be in this world.

By not letting the harm others do to you define your reality you become empowered yourself and you empower yourself to not live the rest of your life as a victim.

Not ever being a victim is an attitude that one must take to actually survive and do well in this world.

It's why most people are children pretending to be adults because they never learned this lesson about self empowerment.

By God's Grace