You have to learn enough about yourself and your needs to survive to adulthood

 I look back at my own life and I remember the 1950s and at the time I wondered why I would want to live through the world that I saw then.

And likely young people are looking at this world now and thinking the same thing.

In the 1950s life to me seemed very dreary indeed, especially when i lived in Seattle when I was under 4 years old.

Of course everything is relative wherever you are on earth. No matter how much you don't like what's going on around you there is always your relationships with people in your life like your mother, your father your brothers and sisters your friends and other people you meet along the way.

So, no matter how bad you might think your life is often it is more about the people around you than it is about yourself.

However, here is something to think about.

If you don't take care of yourself first you cannot take care of anyone else that you care or love in your life or even your friends.

So, for me, it all started with this.

I might want to be gone from the earth as a young person but I still wanted my parents and relatives and friends to be okay.

So, from 21 to 25 I was willing to sacrifice my need to leave this planet in order for my parents and relatives and friends to be okay.

This is how my adulthood started out for me.

And I always had girlfriends from age 15 years old so I always was involved in some way in a relationship with girls along the way.

So, this too helped me to think about the needs of others over my own needs which helped me stay alive too.

If you don't learn enough about yourself along the way you often don't survive to adulthood. This is what I discovered along the way.

As I learned more about psychology, anthropology and Philosophy my life began to make more sense and i took an interest more in staying alive.

So, my path to adulthood was learning to take care of myself so I could take care of others in my life.

And this worked for me and always has.

When I later researched my family line back to 1580 in Switzerland near Zurich I found that since this time at least the men in my family all were married and had 5 to 10 kids right up until my father was born in 1916 where he had 2 brothers and 2 sisters as well. However, then the world changed and people in my family had 1 to 2 kids mostly each. However, my biological cousin and myself each had 3 kids each and now he is over 80 with somewhere between 9 and 11 grandchildren as well and right now I have at least 4 grandchildren.

So, the point is: "You need to know yourself to find ways to stay alive for yourself and others"

This is just part of the way life really is if you are going to live to old age and have kids and grandkids along the way.

In understanding about all this you think about the future of your children and grandchildren too and try to find ways to keep them all alive and healthy and successful on into the future potentially forever.

By God's Grace