Thursday, December 4, 2008

Women are crazy and men are Lame

Note: my wife says this is more true of the World War II generation than today. However, I still see it this way. end note.

Or more specifically Women are unpredictable and men are predictable. However, there is a reason that men are predictable. Women don't as a general rule kill each other very much. However, men do. So, men as boys growing up learn predictability is a way of not getting killed by other men. Though women might find this all very lame, men find it a way to survive in the world of men.

Also, women since the 1960s want to be the equals of men. But do they want to live in the kill or be killed world of men that men find themselves in every day? I think women want the good without the bad generally. But that is just my opinion.

However, since I am a man it is much easier for me to speak about this as a man than as a women having not been a woman in this lifetime.

From a man's point of view fighting and being killed is not the worst thing that can happen to one. The world and 45 years of working only to retire when you no longer feel good doesn't sound like fun to most men. So dying in a battle with other men might be an honorable way out of the conundrum of life.

No, the worst outcome for a man is to be married or to live with someone you are really truly in love with and driven crazy by her and driven to alcohol or drugs, or worst of all being driven to kill her because of her insanity. For me, a woman who drives a man to a state of dishonor, craziness, alcohol, drugs and/ or death is the worst outcome for all men.

Every man has a different reaction and solution to all this. There is a saying, "It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." I have a cynical but true theory about all this.

The ratio of men who meet and wind up with their love of loves is about 1% of men. Of those men half are successful and half are not. The 1/2% who are not, go crazy and die or kill their loved ones and sometimes their kids.

Now, this is my question to you: Are these 1% of men the luckiest or the unluckiest on earth? My answer would be that they are the unluckiest.

For, in a lifetime of hundreds of relationships with women I have found the ideal relationship with a woman (at least for me) is not living with or being married to a woman you are madly in love with because that is just a recipe for disaster.

No. A really good long term relationship is someone who is your best friend that shares your interests, that has your back, that is sexually compatible with you. For being deeply in love, just by itself is not enough to sustain a relationship and more often than not will kill the relationship and possibly destroy your life.

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