You don't know what you know until you know it

Some people are lucky enough to meet the mate of their dreams in college and to spend the rest of their lives with them. My life wasn't like that. I had many many girlfriends between age 15 and 25 when I met my first wife. I had always thought I was going to marry my best friend in church's sister when I grew up but even though we dated she was a year older than I and I just couldn't grow up fast enough to actually marry her. By the time I was old enough it was about 5 years too late.

So, I have been married 3 times. So, this article is about forgiving myself for being married 3 times. I didn't set out to be married 3 times it is just what happened along the way. I remember going to North Carolina to visit my wife's mother's relatives and they had trouble dealing with me being married three times because they were all very conservative and Christian like people in the South often are and always have been.

In California I meet people like myself all the time. We are very experimental here and travel all over the world a lot and are all mostly survivors and adventurers in some ways a lot like myself. When you have an adventurous attitude towards life your life is always an adventure and not boring. But, the problem becomes you might not put as much thought and planning into your whole life.

I tried to plan my whole life in my teens and 20s and then realized I'm disappointed quite easily when things don't work out. So, in order to avoid offing myself before 25 I realized I needed to live a more spontaneous lifestyle which is very adventurous. This kept me alive and has taken me all over the world on many many adventures. But, it also led to me being married 3 times too.

When your life is not boring and instead of one or two variables in your life you have 1000 variables it is interesting but things aren't going to be working the same as if you only have 2 variables in your life.

So, I guess the point is: "Do you want to die of boredom or do you want to have adventures?"

The saying goes: "An Adventure is a difficult situation well handled" and this is the story of my life so I now have many stories to tell my children and grandchildren which likely is a good thing.

By God's Grace

You don't know what you know until you know it

For me, my epiphany was flying back from Maui yesterday when I realized I was about 2 to 5 times stronger than when I left for Kauai a couple of weeks ago. It wasn't until the temperatures started dropping in the plane at altitude that I realized this. Partly, it's just it has been so hot and humid in Kauai and Maui that it has been hard for me to do much deep thinking about life and staying alive. While I was there I was still sort of scared that this might be my last year on earth.

Now, I'm seeing that if I'm very disciplined about medicine and exercise and diet I might still be around in my 90s or 100s if I wish. For me, it's all about quality of life. Without enough quality of life I really doubt if I'll stick around very long here on earth. I think most guys are like this. Women seem to come from a very different place than this. I think men were bred to be soldiers for thousands of years. If they weren't taught to fight and die in a moment's notice tribes and nations just didn't survive at all. So, genetically men (the ones that survived to breed) had to mostly be fighters dying for the greater good of the tribe, nation and family. So, genetically that is what men are: Fighters and those who die defending their families, tribes and nations.

So, when it actually comes to dying it is more easy for us to accept death simply because we were trained to die in battle from birth anyway. At least this is true of men born in the 1950s and 1940s like myself. For example, more boys my age exactly died in Viet Nam than any other age born in 1948 like me. And since 50,000 boys died there and hundreds of thousands after they returned home eventually, a good percentage of the 50,000 that died there in Viet Nam in the war were exactly my age born in 1948.

So, staying alive is completely about quality of life and the fact that I would like to not abandon my wife and children and friends if I still have all my mental and physical capacities intact.

So, 71 from this point of view might as well be 41 in this context in other nations around the world. Simply because, from my observations how healthy I am presently at 71 is pretty much how healthy the average man was at 41 in the 1950s here in the U.S.  In other words they tended to die a lot between 35 and 50 or 60 in the 1950s when I was growing up. Most men had lost most of their teeth and either wore false teeth plates or had bridges installed between teeth by age 40. Whereas I'm 71 with no bridges at all and only one tooth implant but about nine root canals and caps on all my front teeth which look nice at this age.

So, I'm actually both physically and mentally younger than most 41 year olds that I knew in the 1950s here at 71 in 2019.

So, I'm Grateful to God for all the Grace in my life that brought me here to today and beyond.

You don't know what you know until you know it

This is the real problem in life. Of not knowing what you need to know in various kinds of situations.

Once you know what you need to know often you can figure out ways to survive whatever it is you are facing.

But, until you know what you REALLY need to know to survive any situation it becomes sort of hit or miss whether you actually emotionally, psychologically or physically survive any given situation you might encounter in life.

This is why: "Learning to ask the right questions to the right people or Artificial intelligence will give you survival emotionally, psychologically and physically (potentially).

If you understand that formulating the "RIGHT" questions and who or what to ask these questions to will often decide whether you survive any given situation in your lives or not.

Most of the time it is not your physical survival that is at stake "unless you are in an emergency room in a hospital" or something like this.

Rather what is at stake is your emotional, and psychological and monetary survival that is at stake.

So, realizing Who or what you need to ask questions to and whether you trust those answers or not will often decide many different aspects of your survival ongoing.

But, Each Good answer you get from someone or something (in the case of AI online) will help you to survive one more day (which might be all you need that day to survive it).

By God's Grace

So, it is important to be grateful for each good answer you get because being grateful tends to create more good answers so you can survive ongoing.

I don't know why the universe is constructed this way, this just appears to be true in an ongoing way according to the last 70 years of my ongoing experiences.

By God's Grace