The first time I ever heard it put this way was from Tibetan Lamas started around 1980.
From this point of view there is idiot compassion (where people want to do something to help other people but wind up being harmed or harming others in the process.
I myself have been dealing with various things that there seem to be no useful answer to in my life for at least 20 years regarding some people I know from the old days.
Some people's choices are just so bad you can see it might create a murder suicide at some point. However, often in these cases there is absolutely nothing you can do at all but maybe pray for people and that's it.
So, Right mindful Kindness is practical Kindness that helps others without harming yourself.
Most people don't really get the hang of this type of practical Kindness until they are about 30 years old or more with a lifetime of experience.
But, the point of this here is that often there is absolutely nothing you can do to help people without being injured or dying yourself.
So, people who do things where they aren't practical about helping people often wind up dead or the people they are trying to help wind up dead too.
So, the saying; "God give me the strength to know what I can do and what I can't and the wisdom to know the difference"
Is often a matter of life and death in people's lives.
