What is one of the most important things in a marriage (at least for a man this is true and maybe for a woman too)

Learning to choose your battles.

If people are not careful the battles that they choose break up marriages and relationships. 

Some thing are worth fighting about to stay together and to make sure your children are all right.

However, some things are not useful to fight about because there is no useful resolution.

But, by fighting in relationships it isn't about physically fighting at all, it is about bickering. What is it useful to bicker about?

First of all, you have to be sure that in that moment your partner can hear what you are saying. In other words if you choose a bad day to bicker then often that might end a relationship.

So, you realize that the relationship is what is important.

How do you protect a good relationship?

By realizing it is worth protecting in any way that you can protect it.

However, you also have to realize when it is not useful to protect a relationship too.

In order to maintain a good relationship you must protect both your integrity and your partner's integrity or you have nothing at all.

You are a team that stands back to back fighting for your survival together.

You are a survival team.

If you are not then your relationship isn't long for this world.

If you aren't both helping each other survive then there is no relationship really at all.

However, regarding your children you have to find ways to protect them no matter what.

By God's Grace