You don't know what you know until you know it

Some people are lucky enough to meet the mate of their dreams in college and to spend the rest of their lives with them. My life wasn't like that. I had many many girlfriends between age 15 and 25 when I met my first wife. I had always thought I was going to marry my best friend in church's sister when I grew up but even though we dated she was a year older than I and I just couldn't grow up fast enough to actually marry her. By the time I was old enough it was about 5 years too late.

So, I have been married 3 times. So, this article is about forgiving myself for being married 3 times. I didn't set out to be married 3 times it is just what happened along the way. I remember going to North Carolina to visit my wife's mother's relatives and they had trouble dealing with me being married three times because they were all very conservative and Christian like people in the South often are and always have been.

In California I meet people like myself all the time. We are very experimental here and travel all over the world a lot and are all mostly survivors and adventurers in some ways a lot like myself. When you have an adventurous attitude towards life your life is always an adventure and not boring. But, the problem becomes you might not put as much thought and planning into your whole life.

I tried to plan my whole life in my teens and 20s and then realized I'm disappointed quite easily when things don't work out. So, in order to avoid offing myself before 25 I realized I needed to live a more spontaneous lifestyle which is very adventurous. This kept me alive and has taken me all over the world on many many adventures. But, it also led to me being married 3 times too.

When your life is not boring and instead of one or two variables in your life you have 1000 variables it is interesting but things aren't going to be working the same as if you only have 2 variables in your life.

So, I guess the point is: "Do you want to die of boredom or do you want to have adventures?"

The saying goes: "An Adventure is a difficult situation well handled" and this is the story of my life so I now have many stories to tell my children and grandchildren which likely is a good thing.

By God's Grace