How do I stay relatively calm through all the extremes in life here on earth?

First of all, My experience is that death has been looking over my shoulder since I was 2 and almost died from whooping cough. Then from age 10 to 15 I had a concussion which caused me to have seizures sometimes at night. After that, there wasn't much that would physically scare me much. You could call it medical PTSD from whooping cough and a concussion at age 9 or 10 or whatever you want to call it but I wasn't scared by things that might kill me much simply because I had already experienced that terror pretty much ongoing from age 2 to 15. So, even though girls scared most other boys they didn't scare me. In fact, I was usually comforted by being around girls and women because they had always been nice to me.

Most of the people who lied to me and tried to kill me as a child and young adult were boys and men. So, it was always men I didn't trust. So, as long as a girl or woman wasn't fully insane I tended to feel relatively safe around them. 

So, when they confided in me about their problems I was pretty quiet until I was 18 to 20 years old and so I listened to their problems and since I'm very logical and pragmatic (I had to be to survive whooping cough and a concussion with seizures by the way). Since I'm very logical and pragmatic out of a survival necessity I could be very helpful when girls and women confided in me in helping them solve their problems always.

As long as a girl or woman wasn't insane I could usually help them a lot or somewhat.

So, a part of my being relatively calm is when I'm able to help the women in my life starting with my mother and grandmothers and then girlfriends, wives and daughters etc.

I haven't always been great at taking care of myself but I'm really great at taking care of others. So, when I take care of family and friends they also tend to help me in my life too. This is part of the core of what keeps me calm when other people are freaking out and self destructing.

I'm too busy helping other people survive their lives to worry that much about my own life.

This is one reason why I'm almost always the calmest one in the room wherever I am on earth.

By God's Grace 

Note: But most of all my experiences with angels and God 24 hours a day are likely the biggest reason I'm calm most of the time no matter what is happening.

By God's Grace