I think the first 30 years are the most stressful because the changes come left and right from all directions inside of you and outside of you and you usually haven't figured it all out yet.
Like as a child it really helps to have good parents (like I did) my parents were very religious and didn't smoke or drink at all. However, they were Anti-Vaxers and so I got whooping cough and almost died. But then the angels came and saved my life so I lived through this too.
Then I had to leave my childhood religion after breaking up with a girlfriend in my church. This doesn't sound like a problem but it was for me (and thousands of other people around the world) who get shunned by their religion for having any point of view (AT ALL) different than their church. So, there is definitely NO FREEDOM OF RELIGION within any church on earth. Either you do it their way or you are gone.
So, the first 30 years were tough but then I started to figure it all out. I was a single Dad at 30 and I remarried at 32 and this was okay for about 14 years. This this wasn't working anymore so in order to stay alive in a body on earth I had to divorce my 2nd wife and I got married again. However, this time I finally got it right.
So, part of what I'm saying here is even though the Zero to 30 is the hardest, things still happen in a never ending way after you are 30 too. However, if you are lucky you have figured out to survive better here on earth (or at least better than you did from zero to 30). I realized how to survive better by 30 to 32 but it still didn't save me from all the problems in my life either psychological or physical.
So, just when you think you have life all figured out life throws you a curve ball and life becomes something new that you never imagined before in your life.
Why am I still alive? after everything. I think my life has always been an adventure and I have always been an adventurer at heart. What is an adventurer? It's someone adaptable enough in one way or another to survive almost anything in life.
So, anyway, I'm still alive at 77 and still amazed I have survived this long especially because my two best friends from 6 and 10 years old each died one in 2006 and one in 2011. So, this was surprising too!
The friend from church when I was 6 years old was one of my two best men when I got married the last time in 1995 in Yosemite National Park at the Chapel there. My friend who died in 2011 was a veteran of the Viet Nam War in the Air Force as a jet engine mechanic who was my best friend in junior High And High school until he joined the Air Force and became a jet engine mechanic in Thailand working on all the military jet planes there.
So, when he came back we didn't see each other again. until our 40s. I found him online through his yahoo email and found out that his mother had moved to Santa Barbara like my parents had moved to San Diego about the same time which is why we lost track of each other then in 1969 when he went off to war and fixing jet engines in Thailand for the Air Force.
So, losing those two friends was very hard but I still have one friend I started climbing mountains with in 1969 starting with the wire up of Half Dome in Yosemite and finishing with him meeting my family and I in Nepal in 1986. So, we are still friends and he lives in Mt. Shasta and owns land up there like I used to too.
But now, I'm 77 years old and will turn 78 this year too. One of the funniest things I learned today is that if you watched "The Golden Girls" on TV the very oldest of them was actually ONLY 52 years old. So, it seems people live at least 20 to 25 years longer than that now pretty much because of medical advances and psychological and spiritual advances and diet advances and exercise so more and more people are living to 90 or 100 years old now than before. And here I am living in retirement myself 1 mile away from the ocean where I walk my dog on the beach almost every day now too.
So, can you live to be 77 or 80 years old too? I think you have to take it one moment one day at a time. Otherwise you might just drop dead from all the changes in life tomorrow.
So, just remember just live one moment at a time because that is how i got to 77 in the first place!
One moment at a time!
By God's Grace
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