"There are no problems only Opportunities" This statement saved my life in 1994

I was in my mid 40s and going through a horrific divorce and saw that I might not make it through this one. A friend of mine from childhood in church who had a master's degree in psychology told me to take to heart "There are no problems only opportunities". I did this and it saved my life and created a whole new amazing future for me.

How did this save me?

If you refuse to see anything as a negative then everything becomes a positive.

You just broke up in a 14 year marriage with children. I can now do whatever I want in my life. I'm free. I don't have to just lay down and die I can do anything I want to.

I'm 40 and I'm alone and I'm freaked out to be alone in my 40s.

I can date whoever I want to.

So, instead of just freaking out and ending my life over a terrible divorce I created a whole new life that included all my children and my new wife instead and we had a daughter that is now 23. Now I have been happily married 25 years since December 1995.

So, when things are the worst make yourself think about problems like in the saying and you will survive whatever is coming in your life.

You have to refuse to see problems as bad things and ONLY view them as opportunities in order to survive those terrible transition times. Often a break up is like someone you loved died and one of those people is you. So, you have to reinvent yourself or you will die for real physically.

I did and my life is amazing the last 25 years.

By God's Grace

Note: so you can succomb and die physically or you can reinvent yourself and live. It's always a choice!

I can remember thinking after I remarried: "I have to adapt to my new life before my old life kills me!"

This was very true. You have to be very willful and disciplined with yourself in order to create yourself into a new and better person than you were before. But, I was 46 years old and I had a lot of experience surviving almost anything already. So, I succeeded! Just don't give up on yourself or your children. Find a way to be there for your kids because that is one way to maintain your sanity through difficult times.