Friday, October 17, 2008

Two Sexual Strategies

There is the ancient Asian Strategy that goes something like, "Let's not have any more unwanted uncared for children. Therefore any sex that doesn't result in unwanted children begin born won't be accepted or be okay but it will be tolerated.

Then there is the Middle Eastern historically based Patrilineal Judeo, Christian, Islamic one that most of the western world ascribes to.

I want to talk about the Asian strategy because since it is designed to prevent unwanted births and unwanted children it makes more sense to me in this incredibly overpopulated world we all now live in.

I lived in India and Nepal for 4 months in 1985 and 1986. So I was there from December 1985 until April 1986 with my family(3 children 10-14 and my wife and I then each 37 years old)

I noticed while I was there that no one was allowed if they were male and female to ever even hold hands or neck in public. One could be beaten for this by mobs at any point. This was/is? still a part of most Asian cultures even though the Western secular world and Asian values are colliding and the difference is less and less every day.

So this is how the basic Asian sexual strategy works: If you are young (6-25) and single then sex with the opposite sex is absolutely not tolerated and might even cost you your life. However, in public young men in groups hang all over each other and touch each other and hug each other and the same is true for young women in groups. What this may lead to is anybody's business as long as it isn't made public. However, no holding hands or even any unmarried male and female couple should not be alone together even in public.

What this creates is a situation where people just don't see couples of males and females ever together if they aren't married in public. This I witnessed all the time in India and Nepal. So if you saw young people(especially out in the country it would be maybe 12 young women walking together somewhere or maybe on a bus. But you would Never in the country see one single woman walking alone anywhere. This changes in the big cities like New Delhi where there are many educated women. Also, this is now 23 years ago that I was there and a lot has certainly changed since then.

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