Friends

 Our housekeeper just met someone who is now about the same age as I was when I married the last time which is 46 years old. I met the lady I married at age 46 for the last time 30 years ago this last December 1st and then we married one year later after being together one year.

So, to show her how it worked for us the last 30 years we showed her a DVD I made of our wedding at the chapel in Yosemite national Park when we married in December of 1995 one year after we got together also in December. As we watched our wedding filmed by my son who was in his early 20s there I also saw on the DVD my mother who was still alive until 2008 and my best friend from childhood who died in his early 60s in 2006. He said one day to me: "If you don't marry this woman Fred then I will". I was getting over a bad divorce and custody battle at the same time and less anxious to get married once again so this was part of the impetus I needed to remarry my new friend I met one year before.

As I watched this wedding Video I counted all the people there that are now gone: my mother, my best friend from childhood in church, my wife's father and mother and step father and luckily everyone else there is now still alive even though we all are 30 years older.

MY mountain climbing buddy who has always been an amazing musician played music at our wedding in the Chapel in Yosemite National Park too. I have him on video playing the Grand Piano that was there then and might still be there at the Chapel then.

Though we were playing our DVD of our wedding to inspire our housekeeper in this new relationship she is now in it was very healing for my wife and I to see how healing it was for both of us to watch us give our vows in front of family and friends there too then. Though it was sad to see all our parents and my wife's Step Dad now gone it was heartening to see how many of us are still alive now too.

I think it helped our housekeeper too to see how we started our 30 year marriage at that time. No one's life is perfect and for example, my ex-wife wouldn't let my then ex-wife wouldn't let my then 6 or 7 year old daughter attend this wedding which was likely hard on her at the time too. But, she and I and everyone else survived this and now she is in her mid 30s married and has her own new baby daughter as well.

The point of all this is: When something is working for you in life the best thing to do is just to give thanks that it is working. Angels have always been a part of my relationship with my present wife. 

We each bring something amazing to our relationship partly because I had already been married almost 20 years to two other women one in the 1970s and one in the 1980s up through the early 1990s too. So, I was very experienced at age 46 because my first son was born in 1974 who was in his early 20s and actually videoed the wedding as it was happening so we still have a video record of it today 30 years later.

By God's Grace