First people tend to hate themselves then they project this hate out to others

The problem with both these things is it is basically suicidal in most respects, in fact it is both suicidal and homicidal usually too.

So, hating (first  yourself) and then (projecting your hate onto others) doesn't work.

Mostly self hate isn't useful either and often comes from abusive relationships like parents or enemies or friends.

Therapy is helpful but many or most people are too proud to get therapy.

Most problems come from your INNER CHILD becoming traumatized at one or more places in your life.

However, if you project your problems onto others when they were not responsible for your problems in the first place this is completely counterproductive.

So, like for example, when my 3rd wife and I got together I could see something was wrong which was I found out through a 6 week course in Peer Counseling was mostly projecting my traumas onto my wife who didn't cause my traumas in the first place.

So, acting out against people that didn't cause your problems just can get you beaten up or even killed in life.

So, learning peer counseling for all who understand that they aren't dealing with things well might be useful.

Otherwise, people can get injured or die when people are projecting their traumas onto people that didn't cause their traumas in the first place.

Actually, I developed my writing style between ages 30 to 32 which helped me process these traumas in a more useful way. 

I began writing about Arcane on the planet New Deva. However, at that time I didn't know I was actually writing true things at this point because my belief system in 1980 wasn't as evolved as it is now.

In 1998 and 1999 I discovered that the souls we are here on earth are timeless and our souls are capable of incarnating potentially into thousands of bodies at once in the past, present and future. And because our souls are timeless they can experience the past, present and future in any and all moments.

Also, Angels are like this too where they experience the past, present and future all at once all the time which is why they can be so helpful in helping you not die or be maimed if you stay in touch with them all the time.

They will help you stay alive through almost anything if you develop your friendships with God's Angels.

By God's Grace

So, learning to love yourself, Love God and love the Angels might help you live as long as I have or longer.

I'm presently 77 years old which is pretty old for most men these days.

But, I can also see because of fast developing medical technology I might also still be alive at 100 or 150 years of age just like many of you reading this.

by God's Grace