Men's Rules for marriage and Family

The caveat here is that most women will disagree. However, for you men, if you want to be happy in your marriage and not go in with 2 or 3 strikes against you to begin with here goes:

First of all IF you want to have children in your marriage never marry someone before she is pregnant with your child. Otherwise, you might find out that you two can't have kids and then your are married and screwed out of ever having kids. So make sure you can get her pregnant before you marry(but only if you intend to marry her).

Also, if your girlfriend gets pregnant try to make sure the child is yours so you don't wind up raising someone else's kid. However, if you meet a woman who already has kids and you want to be their stepfather, great. However, from my personal experience, being a stepfather to teenagers and beyond might be the least rewarding experience of your lives even though from 0 to 12 it might be the best experience of your lives. I raised two stepkids from ages 6 and 8 to 17 each when they decided to lead their own lives go off to college.

Some people might be different in that they don't want kids because either they or their significant other are always going to be the kid. That's different but even then try to think about why you are getting married? If the answer is to give her everything you own then go ahead. But if the answer is anything else you should think about it more.

Mostly what you read about marriage appears to be women's fantasies. As a man if you want to be happy and not make someone you love miserable the next 50 years of their lives please listen to practicality. The marriage thing that women fantasize about only destroys men's minds and lives. It isn't their fault because it is a fairy tale.

However, as a man, if you are practical enough you can compensate for that fantasy and actually make both yourself and the person you love happy. But if you don't have your eyes open you both will be doomed. Even if you don't agree now you will after 15 or 20 years of marriage or more.