How Can I BE?

People often worry about who they are and trying to find themselves. However, I find the most useful question might be: "How can I BE?"

What do I mean by this. Well. If I think about my whole life from the perspective of a 71 year old I have had many different identities during my life as Baby, Child, young adult, boyfriend, friend, relative, husband, father, grandfather etc. And each of these identities (and hundreds of more variations by the way) comes with a different way of seeing yourself.

But, often from a spiritual point of view "How can I BE?" might be more important than "Who Am I?"

Why?

Because unless you let yourself be often with too much conditioning you wind up with some form of PTSD, whether it is from military training or from corporate training or from trying to survive tough times wherever you grow up. So, I find mostly now and always How can I just BE? is a much better question that brings me to peace and tranquility faster than: "Who Am I?"

"Who am I?" Takes me to identities like these "Baby, Child, young adult, boyfriend, friend, relative, husband, father, grandfather etc" But, none of those identities gives me a deep peaceful state that takes me into enlightenment directly.

However, there is one exception to that because I decided after reading "Autobiography of a Yogi" in the late 1960s that I wanted to be a Householder Yogi instead of a celibate yogi which was a very good call for me in life by the way.

So, for me personally, being a father and grandfather DID help me to become enlightened and helped me to better ask the question: "How can I BE" which is a more important question than "Who Am I?" in the end.

If you have ever seen wild animals like Deer or elk or Moose in the wilds that might not have ever seen a human being ever, are they asking "Who Am I?" or are they saying: "Just let me Be alone at peace here in the wilds?"

Just being alone at peace in the Wilderness is a form of enlightenment in itself.

By God's Grace