If you live to be 30 often you will see 90

 The real problem here is trying to live to be 30 years old in the first place.

I was an idealist in many ways but what it really takes to make it past 30 is to be a pragmatist regarding everything in your life.

I'm sorry and sad to say this but unfortunately "Idealism often kills young people".

In the end, staying alive to raise your children right and to financially support them is the best you can do in life. Otherwise, often you are dead from being narcissistic if you are a man or dead from loving the wrong person if you are a female or any other combination you can think of.

Men are taught to be narcissistic traditionally which in some ways keeps them alive. However, then you have people like Trump that is so narcissistic that people are dying all around him, mostly starving to death worldwide or dying from a complete lack of medical care while only his richest cronies are living high and dry and okay.

Narcissism for me only moved me towards suicide and nothing else. I was always tall and handsome and all the girls wanted to date me or sleep with me.

Many men might say: "What's wrong with that?"

This isn't a healthy way to be for anyone because in the end all you really need is one good person to live with the rest of your life. And I didn't really find someone that suited to me personally until I was 46 years old. So, the last 31 years of my life have likely been the happiest of my life. 

And the most miserable times in my life were from about 18 to 25 before my first son was born. 

After my son was born and I got married my life was more bearable because I lived on to raise my son right mostly and then later the rest of my children.

So, for me at least, having and raising a child saved my life.

I'm not sure what you are like. Only you can fathom this yourselves just like only I could fathom myself to keep myself alive through my 20s too.

But, if taking care of your children keeps you alive to 30 then "God Be With You".

By God's Grace