My stepson started the ball rolling to find someone to marry years ago now around 2005 to 2010. Then my biological son found someone to marry (his 3rd wife) in South Korea while he was teaching there around 2013. Then my youngest daughter met someone in Texas that she is now moving into a house with there online that came with her to Christmas this year to our house in California.
So, so far 3 members of our family have met someone that works for them online. Why?
Because often it is hard to find someone with similar interests and likes and dislikes to marry otherwise. I'm not sure exactly why this is these days but this seems pretty normal for the world right now.
Did I ever have to do this?
No.
But, I grew up in a very different era where people were socialized completely different than now. However, I have been married now 3 times like my son only my last marriage was in 1995 after living with them a year so we have been married now 30 years and together 31 years.
So, in my case "Third time is the Charm!"
Is living together helpful in getting married?
I think it depends up on the relationship.
For example, one of my daughters lived with a guy she loved for 9 years before he told her he didn't want to marry anyone or have children with anyone so they broke up and then she met someone else in Europe and they have been together since 2018.
So, even if you meet someone that you love they might not want to get married or live in the same place that you want to or you might have other disagreements that prevent your marriage from ever happening.
So, it's important to ask people things before it's too late about what you both want in life.
Being practical is likely more important than anything regarding marriage.
Just remember if you aren't practical about why you are with someone then suffering is the normal result in the short or long term.
You have to agree on things enough to be realistic about what you can accomplish together.
Without practicality you have nothing in other words.
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