Death and divorce I see as somewhat the same thing

 Only in a divorce what dies is your family. Your family dies. You all are forced to become new people in order to survive. Is this good or bad?

It's usually both but some people cannot survive divorce because it was the only life they wanted or knew. So, they mentally or physically don't survive divorce one of the two or both.

I myself found it very hard to go through 2 divorces. the 2nd one when I was 46 was where I didn't believe I could survive this divorce but what allowed me to survive was to champion my then 5 year old daughters survival in this situation. So, I tried to get custody of her so she could survive. Though I couldn't get this I did get joint legal custody of her. And she said she survived all this because she always knew I would be there for her no matter what.

So, death and divorce are kind of the same thing from my perspective. I think I survived these times in my life simply because I had had many girlfriends before I got married the first time. So, I was very used to being with a girlfriend and breaking up and moving on to someone new. People who don't date a lot before marriage often don't survive divorce when it happens. It's not that anyone marries expecting divorces to happen it's just that people change and finances change and the world changes. The world is not static and neither are we as individuals.

Some people break up and don't get divorced. However, this has it's own legal problems because when you are still married to someone you can be drawn into bad legal situations if you are still married to them. 

So, there is something to be said for not getting married as long as there are no children involved.

For example, I don't think I ever would have married in my first marriage unless she was already pregnant in the first place. So, for me, at least marriage was for my children always and not just for me.