Enlightenment

Tibetan Buddhists have an interesting thing to say about pain.

It goes something like this:

"Pain is mental and emotional but not really physical"

In other words the pain that actually kills people rots their insides out from traumas of various kinds in their lives.

Blaming others for this pain is not useful.

At some point if you are going to be an adult you take personal responsibility for everything in your life.

By doing this you can be yourself and your own parent at the same time.

When you re-parent yourself you imagine yourself as your own child.

Then you are kind to your inner child and help them not suffer anymore.

By Reparenting yourself away from harmful things others did to you mostly by accident or not thinking carefully you become the person you want to be in the world slowly or quickly according to how skilled you are at parenting yourself.

One begins by having compassion for yourself.

However, to have compassion for yourself you have to have integrity. 

In other words if you are just going around killing people how can you have compassion for yourself?

If you are harming or stealing from others how can you have real compassion for yourself or others.

So, be a good parent to yourself so you can have inner peace and enlightenment and move away from suicidal homicidal behaviors that will only kill you and others in your lives and nothing else.

So, if you want to have enlightenment, first you need compassion for yourself and all others. Next, you need integrity where kindness goes to yourself and all other beings. This is the path to inner peace for a lifetime or more.

By God's Grace