The Best laid plans of mice and men often go astray (this is the perspective of someone who has already survived almost 77 years so far)

 So, because of this your adaptability and also your compassion for yourself and others will serve you well through all the changes you will encounter in life.

The problem is many of these changes you are completely unprepared for at all. So, after crying yourself to sleep many times you need to harness your anger to create something constructive in your life and the lives of those around you. Otherwise you are a goner if you cannot adapt to what happens in your life.

You can ONLY take care of yourself and others if you can take care of yourself first. Otherwise this just doesn't work at all.

So, if you are caring for others your first duty is to care for yourself so you can care for the others in your charge.

By God's Grace