Young men often die from Narcissism. I know I was almost one of these young men until I got married at age 26 because my girlfriend got pregnant

Narcissism was really common still in the 1950s when I grew up. My father was sort of King Fred and I was Prince Freddie and we were treated like this by my mother and her mother who also lived with us. Of course this tone was set by my grandmother mostly because she was born in 1888 in the Victorian era and was raised after 12 in Scotland after her parents house in Philadelphia burned down. So, the parents and the 10 or 12 children that my grandmother was one of moved back to Clydebank which is near Glasgow in Scotland. 

My grandmother had me parroting what she wanted me to say by age 3 or 4. Then people often asked children in the 1950s what they wanted to be when they grew up. It was a thing then. So, I parroted this: 

"I want to be a Gentleman when I grow up."

Looking back at this I did become a Gentleman and in some ways eventually like an English Lord in some ways here in the U.S.

I did become the gentleman that my Scottish Grandmother wanted me to be after all.

And my mother went along with this too because romantically at least both women were not happy in their marriages even though my father was an excellent provider and we always had enough and always owned one or more cars growing up and my parents were very religious and never smoked or drank in their lives that I know of.

So, this led Prince Freddie in the role set for me to become a somewhat narcissistic child and young man. Also, being an only child didn't help in this either. So, by the time I was 18 I was told: "You can be ANYTHING you want to be."

However, for me, like many of my forebears in some ways it would have been easier just to become an electrician and eventually an Electrical Contractor like my father and uncle and grandfather were before me.

However, my father had been valedictorian of his High school Class and always resented the fact that his father prevented him from going to college to become an Electrical Engineer his whole life and so he was forced to become an electrician and eventually an Electrical Contractor in Los Angeles County when I was growing up.

So, this is my lead in to nearly fatal narcissism in my own life.

What brought me out of all this?

My Girlfriend got pregnant when I was 25 and we got married when I was  26 before my son was born.

This ended permanently my narcissism and made me the man I am today.

When I researched back to 1580 in Switzerland my forebears on my father's side all the men owned businesses even after they came to the U.S. from Switzerland in 1720 and they all had about 5 to 10 kids each. 

So, I could see they  all must have gotten over their narcissism too by getting married and having children and starting businesses all the way back to 1580 in Switzerland.

So, this worked for me too.

By God's Grace