My father's family was 5 kids but I also met 10 kid families. And at this point at least if there were 10 kids it usually was the same man and woman having those 10 kids, especially if the husbands were doctors for some reason. The Yours, Mine and Ours style of family became more common in the 1960s and after just like the "living together" of a couple without being married started also in the late 1960s with my generation. The living together style mostly came about because of unfaithfulness in families (usually by the father) where(the father or the mother lies) about what they are doing extracurricularly to their family. I saw this happen a lot in the 1950s especially when men had a family but also many other relationships and eventually they get found out and this harms the family usually.
So, living together was seen as a way to avoid this problem where you didn't have to get divorced if either partner had an affair and was found out where people could just go their own ways without making a big deal of it. (EXCEPT) when kids were involved(IT ALWAYS WAS A BIG DEAL on every level).
So, basically, the living together model of relationship ONLY works if there are no children involved (or it could also work if the couple are very responsible people (but responsible people don't always stay that way ordinarily either throughout their lives. Eventually, unsurmountable problems of one kind or another arise and then where are you?
I think societies of the world are going to continue to grapple with these problems in various ways around the world ongoing. NO one way works for all people all the time it appears. And living together obviously does not work when children are involved because the children are not legally protected from harm by the country or state that they live in.
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