Always a Gentleman

Being a gentleman is mostly about the way you treat people and how you protect others from harm.
It all started for me through my Scottish Grandmother. She had a definite Scottish Brogue from Clydebank, a Suburb of Glasgow, Scotland, where she was raised after her family's home burned down in Philadelphia where she was born from two Scottish Immigrant Parents there. The parents never returned to the United States but I believe all 12  children that had been born in the U.S. already did. She was born in 1888 so when she was about 12 or 13 they had moved back to Scotland to Clydebank where both of her parents eventually died.

My mother's mother had had a stroke at age 60 and so after being in a coma for 1 to 3 months she came out of it and I became her focus. My mother said she felt her mother was a walk-in because she was a different person after the coma and stroke. Mostly, Nana (I called her Nana) read her bible and raised me after her stroke. She lived with us from the time I was born until I was about 22 when she went to Seattle to live with her other two daughters until she passed away.

So, she trained me to tell people when they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up I told them starting by age 2 or 3, "I want to grow up and be a gentleman". And I was and I did become a gentleman always.

So I always was a gentleman because of my training from my grandmother and my mother. The last physical fight I remember being in was when I was about 5 years old. We were at my friend's house and we were fighting over a toy. we grabbed each others faces (remember we were only 5 or 6) and we rolled around screaming until his mother sent me home. I remember thinking, "Boy, that was painful in every way. How stupid was that!" I never physically fought for a toy or anything else after that but only to defend myself from harm. Fighting was stupid and only for staying alive.

So, I guess you could say I became a full gentleman in actuality at age 5 or 6.

The other interesting thing about this training was that women and girls always loved me because I was always attentive and helpful and charming. Also, I liked my mother and my grandmother so I found this extended to all women. I realized as I got into my 20s that my grandmother and my mother had raised me this way because neither had been happy with their husbands in some ways. So, they wanted me to be liked and loved by all women and so I was because I grew up tall and handsome.

However, becoming an actual (rather than theoretical gentleman) has it's ups and downs. For example, other men who are more uncouth and ungentlemanly and bestial often dislike you if you are a gentleman, because you almost always have a girlfriend or a wife and family and they often don't. So, even though you might always have women that love you BECAUSE you know how to treat and how to protect women from harm, they might not ever have girlfriends, wives, or children. So, I suppose if there is a downside to being a gentleman this is it.

However, this in the end is a pretty stupid downside because being loved because you are a gentleman and know how to take care of and protect women and children (when they wish to be taken care of and protected) is a very good thing and actually helps the ongoing positive processes of the human race ongoing.

Note: The reason I wrote this is because last night I was watching:

4 Weddings and a Funeral: 1994

Four Weddings and a Funeral (1994) - IMDb

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Directed by Mike Newell. With Hugh Grant, Andie MacDowell, James Fleet, Simon Callow. Over the course of five social occasions, a committed bachelor must ...

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The part played by Hugh Grant reminded me a lot of myself when I was young of someone who was a gentleman, loved by the ladies and yet like a lot of men sort of clueless in some ways. (It takes a man much longer to fully grow up than it does most women).