Grieving

Lately I have been trying to counsel a lady who is the daughter of a friend of mine who helped save my life when I was 21. the lady who helped save me is now in her 90s and because of her advanced age and various problems physically now has become combative at times and for example, won't take medicines that might save her life now. But on one level she wants to be gone but doesn't know how to go about it in a useful way at this age. My son a trained nurse says "Death is almost never easy for people or what they expect exactly" Because it is NOT like anything you see on TV. IT is completely different when it happens to you or someone you love. It is unlike anything else you might have to survive.

So, this lady whose mother is in her 90s is in her 50s but her mother has never really released her to live her own life even though she is in her 50s now. So, this is weighing heavily on the daughter now. So, I have tried to tell her that unless she survives all this it is all meaningless. So, I've tried to share that "Life is for the Living!" and people in their 90s are very close to death often because who do you know 90 or over 100 years of age much?

So, even though theoretically I believe people will eventually live to 5000 or 10,000 years just through learning how to live and think right and through medical science too, most of us aren't there yet. But we all might be in the future.

So, I'm trying to counsel her as to saving her own life because her mother is making really bad decisions now and that she cannot treat her mother as if she is still rational. So, to be a good daughter she has to "Mother herself and her mother" or else neither of them will be around soon.

So, trying to change someone's perspective so they can actually survive a crisis like this is sometimes very difficult for people in their 40's through 60s to actually do after a lifetime of thinking one way.

So, all we can do is all we can do in the end.

So, all I can do is try to help people but in the end it is sort of like: "You can bring a horse to water but you cannot make him drink".

People are often like this too where they are dying without the water they need but you cannot force them to drink because legally and on every other level they have free will (at least here in this country).

So, God Bless you all out there and hopefully when you have to deal with grief and loss of loved ones you might think about what I'm writing here. Because I have lost 50 to 100 of the closest people in my life so far since the 1950s and 1960s. As you get older more and more people die that you know and love until eventually you are gone too and only your children and grandchildren remain.

By God's Grace