Sunday, July 26, 2020

How has the coronavirus affected your life?

Yes. I know it can be difficult. But, I was thinking about it in terms of grief and the 5 stages of grief:
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The five stages, denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance are a part of the framework that makes up our learning to live with the one we lost. They are tools to help us frame and identify what we may be feeling. But they are not stops on some linear timeline in grief.

For example, the people who refuse to wear masks and who are dying the most are still in denial.
I'm aware I often get angry. So, at least I'm not in denial anymore.
Depression is where most people are at especially children who cannot go to school or summer camp or anything interesting in their lives.

Bargaining likely will begin soon or attempts at bargaining their way out of all this will be done mostly unsuccessfully simply because it seems there is no end to this ongoing catastrophe worldwide.

The best place around the grief we all feel around the death of our old lives is acceptance which is hard to get to without going through the beginning four stages first.

And the ones I feel the most for are those still in denial and refusing to wear masks and dying because of it (themselves and members of their families and friends).

Acceptance is important to get to because there is no way to actually move forward into your new lives without grieving for your old lives which will never return ever again.

So, grieving for your lost lives is sort of like grieving for losses like your parents, your ex-lovers or ex-wives or ex-husbands. 

If you don't take the time to grieve it could be the end of you. Just like people in denial who won't wear masks and then the next week they are dead.

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