If you are young enough you might not have lost anyone important to you yet. But, it is a skill all of us have to learn at some point during our lives. With each death we are diminished because we have lost those two eyes looking upon us and how they saw us with love and friendship. It diminishes us and with each death we are never the same again. So, it's a skill to know how to survive each loss.
And there are different kinds of deaths. For example, each lover or friend that has left my life has caused me grief down through the Years. In some ways my parents prepared me for all the different kinds of death and grief by moving me around so much between the ages of birth and 21 years of age. By the time this tradition of moving around a lot (mostly around California, Washington, New Mexico and Hawaii) I realized at age 50 that I had moved around 50 times or on average once a year since I as born. But, since I was 50 I have lived in only about 2 houses on the coast near SF in California.
But, for each funeral of a loved one who is a relative or friend we each are diminished which is why every birth in your family is so important as some new person is born in some ways to take the place of all the ones you have lost, until you are in your 70s and everyone older than you is mostly already dead that you have ever known since you were a child in the 1950s like me. So, just expect everyone older than you that you know you might have to go to their funeral. Once you get used to going to funerals you start to be able to do it in stride.
Grief is important for everyone's sanity. Without grief none of us could keep sane enough to even find a way to live another day without jumping off a cliff.
This is just reality for all human beings here on earth.
We all live only by God's Grace
I find great peace in that.
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