Because the subject of rape and abortion has come up I realized it might be the right moment to write about Psychic Rape. Because as an intuitive this is something I understand from observing life all my life.
One way to put this is that Sexual thoughts are a perfectly normal part of the lives of males and female humans and always have been. Religions and churches try to suppress these thoughts and to direct them as a way of channeling them in a controlling way that benefits the religions and churches and often makes people crazy. This I have observed over and over in people I have met throughout my life.
So, I have developed a more pragmatic approach that I have advocated to everyone I have met that was interested since my teens and early 20s regarding this.
One has to start with the fact that people having sexual thoughts are normal. Trying to make people not have sexual thoughts is about like telling people they cannot think about or eat food. It is the same thing.
So, my point of view is that sex for most people is sort of like food. If you don't get enough of it it makes you crazy. Period. Of course there are exceptions to this but I would say the exceptions are about 1 person in 10 and they usually never have children.
I remember holding my son in my arms after delivering him when I was 26 and I thought to myself, "So this is what all this has been about!" And I felt happy and at peace having felt I had discovered God anew in my new born son.
So then psychic rape is when someone sexually takes someone in fantasy in their mind(but not physically) without their permission. The problem with this can go in many directions.
First of all if you are an intuitive like me you know directly from 24 hours a day experiencing this that all thoughts and feelings are real. But, they are real in a different way than physical things are-sort of. In other words all thoughts and feelings affect reality in subtle or strong ways but they do not necessary change physical reality in any observable way.
For example, if someone was raped and murdered physically at some location and someone came in and cleaned up the body no one would know anything had happened. But a psychically sensitive person might pass that way and feel what had happened and be very upset and not ever want to go to that place ever again. And they may or may not know why.
Likewise, if any person has an extreme fantasy about having sex with someone else it always affects the relationship between those two people in some way, shape or form. This can be good or bad or any way in between. But it will have some effect upon any future relationship between them whether or not those two people ever have consensual sex or not.
So, for example, if two people are intuitives and one of those psychically rapes the other without the others psychic permission this could damage any possibility of an ongoing relationship ever happening between them.
So, what I'm cautioning people about is if you are going to fantasize about someone it is a good idea to at the very least ask in your mind what they other person feels about this. If they say "yes" in your mind it might be okay with them. But if you get "No" and still pursue this fantasy (not physically or verbally with them) but only with yourself it can create negative outcomes.
So, though I'm not advocating people be so disciplined that they never fantasize about another person, what I am saying is all this kind of stuff does have various kinds of consequences karmicly so if you are going to engage in these fantasies make sure you get permission from the other person's soul or else you could be generating negative karma.
Many people think that being physically true to your mate or significant other is what is important because often people have problems when they don't. However, most realistic adults who are not trying to drive themselves insane with celibacy see that physically being true to one's mate or significant other is as far as that loyalty goes. This seems to be a general consensus among mankind.
So, whatever you do physically or just in fantasy remember there often are consequences to almost everything you might think, feel or do that affects your life in some way, shape or form at some point.
So, developing your ethics around "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" on not only a physical but also a spiritual, mental and emotional level might be more important than you might think now long term.
7 comments:
Thank you SO much for this article. I experience psychic rape frequently. However, I have not had anyone openly admit to it's existence. This really pisses me off because it encourages a highly misogynistic attitude within the culture around me. A culture that gives one picture--female = sex and does not = brains, intelligence, or the right to work. It's embarrassing for them. It makes me want to kill myself because I am disregarded as a human with a conscience and an opinion ***mentally*** everyday.
The only thing this encourages is that I spread my legs and fuck whoever is willing to do it. It pisses me off. I have an opinion. I have a valid opinion. My opinion over my own body should govern how people respect my f*ckin' mental boundaries.
You know Christians, they just smile and nod and pretend "it's the devil" doing this. Or "it's God's will" that you have children so "a little arrousal" is okay. Atheists, they think that anything that breaking the Christian sexual boundaries is okay. They ALL euphamize and justify the sh*t out of sexual harassment. Because, you know, anything sexy, leads to sex, which leads to children, and God thinks that is okay. OR, anything sexy, leads to sex, and sex that isn't ordained by GOD is still acceptable and probable, and the more we have it, the more we prove we aren't dirty devils, therefore you should too.
Sexual advances psychically are no different than sexual advances physically. However, I have no proof that some asshole refuses to accept my answer of no. And some asshole keeps "attacking" me repeatedly as if my lack of something gives him the fucking right to continue doing it. It's the ultimate f*ck you. I have laws that dictate physical sexual harassment and sexual assault. I am brought up as a female and told to protect myself and "be on the look out". But when it comes to the mental bologna. I have no recourse. I have no law. And this means I am weak. It's the biggest f*cking lie I have ever experienced. How can the law do this to me?
Mostly because I have everyone from Christians to Atheists thinking I just "need to get laid." It's bullsh*t. And the obsessive thinking is coming externally, not internally. I can't believe I finally found someone admit this actually occurs in a negative fashion. I am so grateful you did this. Thank you.
There is another component to this that must be addressed for the whole thing to make more sense especially to females around the world. Females often sense when any male is looking at them while fantasizing about them or a part of their bodies.
However, if you also look at this from an anthropological point of view a male human is biologically predisposed to plant his seed in as many females as possible. It is just his genetic design through evolution and the universe. Whereas females seek out quality over quality because of their genetic makeup so their children can survive to adulthood. Recent studies have found that monogamy in all mammals likely is related to the males protecting the young from being killed by other males in all monagamist mammal species including humans. So, if you understand all this in addition to what I have written about psychic rape you have a much better understanding about what is actually going on whether you are male or female.
Thank you for posting this...I also have experienced this and it is hard to deal with.
Nobody will take me seriously, but I am just trying to rebuild my self-esteem.
Thank you for posting this.
When I was 15 I went to a church beach party and all the women who were 30 to 50 or older commented on how my legs were so beautiful for a man. It felt very strange for all these women to covet me while I was wearing a bathing suit at the beach. This can be a good thing, a bad thing, but mostly a lot of both for a young man and it is definitely very confusing.
At the time I just went body surfing while they watched because it felt way too uncomfortable to be up on the beach with so many women eyeing me the way they were.
By the time I was 20 I had found ways to deal with this. But, it was always a two edged sword both good and bad at the same time.
I think it is the same for women as for young men in some ways.
Both men and women can be victimized by psychic rape. And it is usually both a good and a bad thing if you are sexually healthy in your mind and body.
So, finding a way to deal with this for anyone it happens to is what you have to learn about. Because if you are desirable, people naturally are going to desire you. And if they do you are going to experience a lot of this as they fantasize about you whether they are with you or not personally or physically.
I'm so glad you posted this! I, too, have been a victim of rape, every day for many years. Men don't even ask me out on dates, they would rather violate me with their minds than have a consensual relationship.
Someone needs to address the fact that women are being taken against their will right out in public, every single day!
It's not just a disgusting, violent act, it is so much worse than that. Psychic rape relieves men of the need to woo and please a woman in real life, destroying families and making women into nothing more than pieces of meat to this society.
I have tried reporting the rapes I experience at work to my boss, but she just laughed, like it was OK to do these things to women.
I am a beautiful plus sized woman, men should be wining and dining me, not raping me.
I thank you for posting this but also disagree that theres no harm in psychic rape, nor in telling men or women that they should psychically ask if they can before hand because they who rape this way do so because they are NOT psychic and so don't know any better to hear that no woman considers this to be okay . Men and some women who masturbate are raping themselves. If they truly asked their bodies, the body would not want this. I think the author of this is ethically wrong in giving such bad advice about this.
There are going to be as many opinions about all this as there are people on earth and I expect this. What I think is important is that people talk about this among themselves and come to some agreement if possible in how to deal with all this. Everyone has a different opinion and I'm only giving mine which is only one view of 8 billion here on earth.
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