Writing

Writing is one way to heal yourself. Often you cannot have people to "Stay on task" with you to work on what you most need to work on. Even Counselors like MFTs and psychologists and psychiatrists might  be having a bad day or patients who might suicide that day or week and have difficulty. So, if you have studied enough about psychology, philosophy and Anthropology like I have, I can use writing to do my own therapy work often and then just go to our grief counselor for couples therapy around loved ones who pass away periodically.

If you want to stay married often you need to "Fine Tune" your marriage so changes like deaths of loved ones and other family members moving into or out of your home doesn't help break you up as a couple. So, ever since my wife's mother passed away in 1999 we have found it often helpful to see a psychologist as a couple to "fine tune" our marriage towards better communication so we can weather the storms of all the changes one is naturally going to face in life.

So, for me, writing is how I work out a lot of what I'm dealing with myself. When I put it down on paper then it starts to become clearer for me what I'm actually dealing with.

However, "You don't know what you know until you actually know it!"

This is an important statement for all of us. When you don't have enough information you can't make very good decisions.

But, like my Dad used to tell me in the 1950s: "You just have to make decisions with the best information you presently have available. Then in the future if you get better information you have to make different decisions then when that is appropriate. However, never be afraid to make decisions because there are going to be decisions the rest of your life. Just take the time to think clearly with the available information to make the best decisions possible with the information you presently have."

So, my father encouraged me to just keep making decisions ongoing because that is what you had to do as a man in the 1950s onwards. (living with those decisions often was difficult) but this is true of everyone in life.

But, if you don't just keep making decisions your life ends and you wind up on a park bench somewhere talking to yourself instead.

So, decisions are what allow you to progress in life and actually have a life in the first place.

So, relaxing and just making the best decisions possible in each situation is the best you can do in any given moment.

And that's what life is all about. Learning to make Good decisions. Otherwise, your life is soon over.