Developing Compassion

How does one start developing compassion?

One starts by having compassion for oneself. As you come to understand yourself better by having compassion for yourself rather than constantly torturing yourself, then you can begin to find your way to begin to be compassionate for others. But, it all starts with you.

If you want to change the world you always begin with changing yourself. In some ways you don't really change you just start seeing yourself differently.

You start asking new questions:

Like, why am I so cruel to myself and others?

Often you can trace it back to family traits passed down that should be changed.

So, you begin to surround yourself with people who share your love for compassion of yourself and all others.

This is not about idiot compassion. No.

It is about realizing the world begins to change with you seeing yourself differently. When you have compassion for yourself you can then realistically begin to have compassion for others.

But, as long as you are torturing yourself you are going to continue to torture others.

It's actually very simple.

Also, You cannot make people do anything.

But, if you are a good example of being compassionate towards yourself and others, people may watch you and learn from you because of your good example.

But if you demanded people change you might get no response at all.

This is just human nature. Accept it and you start to be freer right then.

Don't expect anything of others.

Just be the change you want to see.