Emotions

As a man I often put emotions and sexual feelings in the same touchy feely place in my mind when I categorize it.

For a man all this emotional stuff (in my generation at least) has to be considered (extremely dangerous).

Though one cannot really live well without emotions many men try to so they don't wind up being tricked by life into self destructing by killing themselves or someone else.

This is especially true of young men between the ages of 12 and 25 or 30.

So, men often consider their emotions their enemies because men know that emotions might lead to their eventually deaths or the deaths of others if they are not careful.

So, you will see men do the strangest things trying not to feel anything about anyone or anything. No one is ever really capable of doing this, however. Even though emotions terrify many men.

I was kind of lucky regarding this because my mother and grandmother (her mother) were both very intuitive and spiritual people. So, I learned to prefer to be around my mother and grandmother to my father generally because my father was one of the people who pretty much was extremely self disciplined like people who went through the Great Depression and World War II and survived both mostly were. Men said things like, "Do what you can and the rest can", which basically meant do what you can in life and stuff your emotions regarding the rest. So, until I was about 9 or 10 I often preferred being around my mother or grandmother because my Dad wasn't emotionally available to me.

So, if your friends died, "Stuff your feelings". If you couldn't get the job you wanted, "Stuff your feelings". So, among men like this it was mostly "Stuff your feelings so you can survive anything."

Women had a hard time with men like this and still do all over the world still. Those were different times than now. However, there is another saying which is true also, "When the times get hard the tough get going." Which is how people often survive really hard times.

This attitude if you don't have it often means you aren't going to survive what you are going through.

So, getting angry and harnessing your emotions in a constructive way for yourself and your family is often the difference between life and death  in many people's lives.


I found emotions useful but also often not survivable in my life. For example, if I was in love with someone and then it didn't work out I wanted to die. Luckily, this only happened like this a couple of times in my life or I wouldn't be here writing this for you now.

So, I eventually got to the point where I realized that emotions often are not survivable. So, I realized that it was more important for me to survive (and everyone else as well) than for me to have everything I always wanted in my life.

As an only child that didn't lack for most good things in my life (outside of brothers and sisters) this was a very hard lesson to learn from 18 to 25 so I almost didn't make it through these times.

But, by learning to be extremely self disciplined like my father I survived it all somehow.

But, I also realized one's emotions aren't necessarily one's friends. And in the end if it is the difference between having your emotions and dying or suiciding and giving up your emotions and surviving, surviving is much better.

Some men take it to a whole new level which is: "Don't get mad get even!"

Though in theory this sounds really great, in the end I have found this philosophy often just leads to injuries or deaths and people dying or going to prison or both.

Instead it might be useful to harness your anger and become a successful doctor, lawyer, Minister or other profession instead of hurting yourself or someone else.

No one ever really gets to do what they want all during their lives.

Even if you got to be a professional musician and got all the girls for 5 or 10 years, sooner or later you are going to fall off your pedestal and possibly have nothing but your money (only if you learned how to invest and save it).Otherwise you are going to have nothing at all.

So, emotions can be the death of you if you are a man. So, when it is a choice between surivival and your emotions please choose survival.

Because emotions come and go. Just wait about 6 weeks or so and you will usually see things completely differently.

Survival of yourself, your friends and your family is always important. Your emotions are often temporary. Remember that and stay alive if you are a man between 12 and 30 years old especially.