Don't try to domesticate men

This is mostly towards women out there.

Men are sort of naturally like Wolves. But, when women try to domesticate them they sort of become sometimes like domesticated dogs. How does this happen?

Well. Women in their teens and 20s often think they can tame a man because he loves them.

However, here is the problem.

A man often will do or say almost anything for a woman he truly loves and doesn't want to lose.

But, all or some of those things he says or does might be completely meaningless because he is ONLY doing these things not to lose the one he loves.

So, when you make men be different than they actually are by trying to change them fundamentally, often you either make them completely crazy and they lose who they are and might become physically dangerous or psychologically dangerous, or they are going to be saying and doing things you want that they think are completely ridiculous and stupid. And one day often they might just decide not to do any of these things anymore.

I was really grateful to meet my 3rd wife for this reason. She has 3 degrees including a Master's degree but had come to the point at age 39 that she wasn't going to try to change me and accepted me just like I was. This gave me a freedom I didn't have in my first two marriages and also I realized because she was very responsible that I didn't have to worry about her and I could give her complete freedom too.

So, maybe it's something people learn with age, but younger women often make the mistake of trying to change or train their men. The problem with this is either he is going to be lying to you or you are going to make him crazy and dangerous. So, letting him be himself is the safest thing to do.

But, like I said this is something only age seems to teach people.

NOTE: I talked to a friend about 3 years younger than I about this. He said that this is a generality because everyone is different. So, I realized I should add a caveat to this which is: I mostly agree with what I wrote here but it might be somewhat different for men under 35 or 40 years of age because many young men have been so brainwashed with women's liberation that they don't really know which end is up anymore.

Society moves in waves in all directions. It's sort of like a lake. You can throw a rock in the water and the ripples sort of go out forever and bounce on all sorts of shores.

Originally, if you want to know the truth the main reason men agreed finally to women's liberation and voting and everything else was because they didn't want to stop getting laid. Because women often cut men off sometimes for life if they disagreed with them on this subject. So, originally it was less about men wanting women to have more rights it was just about not wanting to be "cut off".

However, in the end both men and women have benefited in many ways from women's rights because in many ways it liberated men too.

However, my perspective is that most people under 40 are pretty confused and don't know where they stand or even who they are and I think it likely is going to be like this for the next 500 years or so.

Because once you open up all these things you drastically change a culture and this is going to really confuse children, young adults and adults and this increases people taking drugs and suicides.

Is it better now? I'm not sure better is the right word for it. I would say it is just different than it was.

Men always loved women. Women always loved men. It's just different now. Not better just different and in some ways worse.

It is definitely worse now for children in general. It is better in some ways and worse for some ways for women. And it is more worse than better for men I would say.

This is from someone who grew up in the 1950s and saw all the changes as they happened in the 1950s, 1960s, 1970s and so on.