Love and Projection

 Projecting one's fantasies on another being that you believe to be in love with is dangerous.

However, pretty much we all do it. Why?

Because of being raised on the types of love stories and Rom-Coms that we read or see about mostly.

So, the people we meet and the movies we watch and the series we watch and the way we are raised often moves us towards projecting our fantasies on others.

However, often this is not who they really are but ONLY projections of our minds upon them.

However, some people like myself are natural Actors since my two aunts were actors and even my father was an actor once a year in a religious play on the LIfe of Christ for years and was always good at his parts and often played several during the play like John the Baptist, And Archangel Gabriel at Jesus' tomb and sometimes the Roman Centurian Guard officer guarding Jesus' tomb after he was on the cross before he resurrected.

So, I found that when women (girls and then women) projected their fantasies upon me (especially after I was 15) I found that I could actually be whoever they wanted me to be for a few hours or days (Especially over a weekend after I was 21). But, eventually all this projection stuff (and often it goes both way) where one partner is projecting upon the other and the other partner is projecting their fantasy on the other too.

However, eventually it comes to a point where both people have to actually be who they really are and then those fantasies cannot help but collapse at some point.

So, unless you are friends and respect each other when those fantasies about each other collapse, you have nothing at all and that relationship ends.

This is the harsh reality of literally everyone's life.