Thursday, September 16, 2021

I met a lot of Native Americans and Tibetans and Nepalis and East Indians in the 1980s in California, India and Nepal

There is something similar regarding Native Americans and Tibetans and because Nepalis are either Tibetan Buddhist or Hindu or both there is also a similarity with Nepalis and East Indians in this sense too.

What they have in common is that they laugh a lot at being alive. White people go often to these places of Grief and fear whereas Native Americans and Tibetans and Nepalis tend to laugh at what happens to them in life instead. I actually like this better.

I remember how miserable White Americans were when I was growing up in the 1950s. There was so much unprocessed grief and sadness from the Great Depression and World War II and everything else.

I felt a lot like suicide would be a better outcome than what my life looked like by the time I was 20. However, by then something else had happened which was Surfing culture, Beatnik Culture and the combination which became known as Hippie culture. I think all these ways of thinking to some degree saved me from suicide and being so miserable that I would have likely died from how I had been raised in the 1950s.

I had to feel like I could make life fun in order to want to continue to be alive. By my middle 20s I had figured out how to be happy in my life so when I got married I knew I never wanted a mortgage or payments on anything bigger than maybe a car or truck. This and owning my own businesses eventually I knew would make my life happy and worth living. So, this is what I did after I got my girlfriend pregnant and then we married so I could raise my son. I was 26 and she was 21. I think she was too young for this to work but I was barely grown up enough for us to be married so when we broke up when I was 29 I became a single father for three years until I met my 2nd wife who was then my age of 32. She had two kids already from her first marriage so this worked okay for about 14 years but ended after my father died in 1994. 

NOTE later: By the way life never forced me to have a mortgage or that kind of responsibility ever in my life. By the time I wanted a big fancy house we were able to just pay it outright because I had never indebted myself that way. I think the Great Recession killed a lot of people's finances when their mortgages went underwater and they had to "Walk Away" from their mortgages and likely declare bankruptcy instead and the banks all ripped off their houses and fortunes.

 So, because of this and many other things my life was less stressful than many other people who bought into the whole mortgage thing. The other thing I did was to buy 2 1/2 acres of land without lines of power going to it in 1980 for around 8000 dollars which doesn't seem like a lot  but then was worth much more then and then I built my own house that we lived in from 1980 to 1985 and then finally sold the land in 1990 I believe. But, living rent free on 2 1/2 acres of the most beautiful land I had ever seen with a full view of MT. Shasta made me want to stay alive and home school my kids from 1980 to 1985 which we did until the oldest was 12 and then we moved back to the San Francisco Bay area and bought another business.

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