Friendship and Respect.
Of all the qualities one needs to continue a long lived relationship it is Friendship and Respect. Love comes and goes. Sexual attraction comes and goes but Friendship and mutual respect is going to keep your relationship healthy and alive.
So, if you want to have a long term relationship it has to be psychologically healthy to begin with. If it's just sexual and nothing else that isn't going to last (even if you have a child together).
The problem with Friendship and respect is that often people in their teens and 20s aren't capable of having a relationship that is respectful and to be friends with their lovers yet.
Some people might never be able to have a relationship like this.
A Catholic Priest I knew said something about how only about 10% o 20% of people are capable of being married and happily living with the same person for a lifetime.
He also said that another 20% of people are capable of having serial monogamous relationships ongoing throughout their lifetime.
He said that another 20% of people might be capable of having one relationship live in that lasts maybe 5 to 20 years and then not capable of another committed long term relationship.
He said that the last 20% of people will never be successful at any long term relationship for one reason or another.
So, when you actually realize that ONLY 10% to 20% of all people are even capable of having a life time relationship and being faithful and true to that one person life makes a whole lot more sense (at least to me).
Note: I do realize that the above example only gets to 80% of the people and also realized that I don't remember what the last 20% of the people were doing so I guess you will have to figure it out for yourselves because this priest friend of mine passed away already about 20 years ago so I can no longer talk to him about stuff like this.
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