Are you realistic enough to survive your dreams?

 There is a saying: "Lose your dreams and you will lose your mind". And I saw many people lose their minds and bodies over their dreams in the 1950s, 1960s and 1970s. After that (by 1980) I was finally an adult even in my own mind by 30 years of age.

I remember believing the adage at the time which was: "Don't trust anyone over 30". I realized my wife might never outgrow this belief and I was worried about that. I thought to myself that "What? AM I going to not trust myself because I'm going to be 30 soon?"

That's just ridiculous!

So, I let go of that point of view at that point in my life.

The real truth is people who survive past age 30 have to learn to be pragmatic enough to do that. And to a teenage or twenty something idealist this might look like they have "Sold Out" their dreams.

But, what it really is that they realize often that the only way they are going to keep their kids alive at that point is changing from an idealist to a realist. Becoming pragmatic in your approach to life is survival itself at a certain point.

Some people's dreams are so completely unrealistic that you are afraid for them if they don't succeed at these dreams. I remember a friend of mine told me he was going to build himself a music Studio to record himself and other artists and to publish their music (at the time starting on tape cassettes) because this was even before CDs. I thought he would fail but he actually succeeded. It's true he had a bachelor's degree and a master's degree so he had the required intelligence and discipline but at the time I thought this was just "Pie in the sky" and unattainable for him so I worried about him. But, most of the time we tend to be right about our friends when we worry about them. He was the exception and not the rule.

One of the best things that ever happened to me was my son was born when I was 26 years old to my live in girlfriend who I married a month before he was born. Having a son was one of the best things that ever happened to me. I'm not sure getting married was a great idea because within about 4 years time I was a single father and this made me grow up even more. But, having a son made me become less selfish like 20 something males tend to be and this helped keep me alive and not take so many risks in life that I died before my son grew up.

So, are you realistic enough to survive your dreams?

Mostly, you learn whether you are or not by the time you live to be 30.

Mostly, if people make it to 30 they tend to keep going.

In fact, I think it is that if you live to be 30 you will also tend to live to 90 years old too here in the U.S.

by God's Grace