Dad

 Dad

Taught me

to Sublimate 

Pain

How is this useful? In sublimating pain unless it is so serious you wind up in the hospital you mostly just think about something else when you stub your toe or smash your hand or even get a concussion.

This was just how life was in the 1950s.

Sometimes it is useful in bad situations to be able to keep on going no matter what.

Other times I find it not good to sublimate pain too much because you need to be more sensitive to not only your own feelings and experiences but the feelings and experiences of others.

My daughter will tell me: "Think before you speak". However, for me, life is spontaneous and in the moment. I don't find planning very useful.

So, I tend to be the most useful to myself and others when times are difficult or difficult situations arise.

This is the old Cowboy way of the West I guess that Dad learned from his Dad and I learned from my Dad.

You just keep on going no matter what happens. You find a way forward no matter what happens.

This was the pioneer way since my relatives came to the U.S. in the 1720s. It's one reason we are still around and many others didn't make it here in the U.S. Life used to be much more difficult for everyone than it was now. My father and Grandfather could tell me about life as far back as the 1880s. I think my Grandfather was born in the 1870s and his father was a captain in the northern Army during the Civil War.

My father remembered from about age 2 in 1918 and I remember from about age 2 around 1950. 1950 is a long time ago now. We didn't get a TV set until 1954 or 1956 around there. And Color TVs weren't worth having until around 1960 when "Bonanza" started on TV around then and "The Virginian" 1962 and Star Trek on TV in 1966.