This statement saved my life in 1994 when I was going through a very bad divorce. I didn't see how I could go on either for my own sake or my children's at that point. A friend with a master's degree in Psychology said this saying to me. I realized the absolute logic of thinking this way of seeing the opportunity in any situation. By doing this you deny the existence of any problem because you learn to see the OPPORTUNITIES within any apparent problem.
I learned to think like this:
Problem: I"M sad because my life is a mess because of divorce.
Opportunities: I can have more quality time with my kids because I won't be arguing with my spouse all the time anymore.
I can date other people because I'm no longer married.
I can travel to another location and work someplace else if I want to.
I can spend more quality time with my children.
note:
It's true divorce is not necessarily a good thing, but it's a whole lot better than the alternative which might be both people in the marriage self destructing or dying.
Also, your kids don't need to see you argue about everything until your level of disgust of each other escalates to dangerous levels either.
What kind of example are you setting for their lives?
How will they ever have a successful relationship with a significant other if all they see is you two fighting?
Children need positive examples to follow or their lives won't make sense either.
So, by seeing the positive opportunies in each and every problem you set a positive example for your children also.
By God's Grace
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