The signals men and women give

I was speaking to my wife about this today and it turned out to be a very interesting conversation. Though the following has to be spoken in generalities only because in the end we are all different people in the end both men and women there is something to this.

My wife was talking about a human potential workshop (Co-ed) that she went to and was very surprised to find out that men generally don't trust other men. This was no surprise to me and I said so. She asked me, "Why don't men trust other men?" I said, "Men don't trust other men until they can speak with them and read them up close. Every man is either a potential friend or a potential enemy to another man. So until a man knows which this other man is he won't trust him at all. He may be polite but there will never be trust there. I also said that men tend to trust women more physically in any given situation because women usually signal before they will physically attack unless they are crazy. A woman usually only attacks either a love interest who has spurned her or harmed her in some real or perceived way whereas a man might harm another man or woman for any reason. Since men know this they don't trust any man until they can better talk to and know this man. For often a man doesn't signal at all before he physically attacks. This is especially true of men with military training. So men tend to be very wary of men who have either just come back from fighting in a war because of Post Traumatic Stress disorder. So generally being a man is much lonelier than being a woman. And this kind of loneliness sometimes causes men to lose it at different points in their lives. And these points are:
after combat, losing a job, breaking up in a relationship, not being allowed to see or raise their children, or Post traumatic STress disorder long term as in Viet Nam Vets and since.

So men always look for signs of stress or odd behavior to tell them something about the man or men around them at any moment. Whereas any woman likely is at the very least going to be polite to a man unless he has wronged her in some perceived way real or not. So men tend to physically trust women even though they might not believe very much of what women say. Many men only trust other men that they have found to trust. The kind of man another finds to trust is someone you would die together if necessary in some kind of street or other battle back to back against all comers. Most women are not steeled enough to be in this position with any man and so are classified differently than as a trusted buddy. However, a wife can be a trusted buddy that one raises children with. For in the end most battles are not physical but psychological and in these kinds of battles a good woman excels better than most men. Men are not good at long term stress. We are good at a short battle and then move on. We are destroyed by long term stress of the kind a girlfriend or wife supplies. So ladies if you want to keep your men be sure to be careful what you demand long term from your man.