Sunday, May 7, 2023

I was involved in the Births of all three of my biological Children

I had three children biologically and adopted 3 more over the course of my child raising life from 1973 until 2014 when my youngest biological child went off to College.

I was 25 when my girlfriend got pregnant in 1973 and I was 25 then and then I turned 26 around the time we married and my son was born a month later.

However, my first wife wanted to have a natural child birth at home without a doctor. I didn't think this was the best idea but couldn't talk her out of it at the time. So, we took a Lamaze Class and learned to have the baby at home and mostly you need clean shoelaces (to tie off the umbilical cord) and denatured alcohol to sterilize everything and some knowledge of what is actually going on. 

But, after we successfully delivered my son at home alone we went back to our Lamaze class after most mothers had delivered and people were freaked out at what we had done alone. However, at the time remember I was 26 and my wife was 21 years old and we were very full of ourselves and what we could do and often that is enough when you are young and healthy and bold (but not always).

Would I do it again now? Probably not because I know so much more now than I did then but at the time this is what we did.

My 2nd child was born in 1989 when I was 41 years old and she was delivered at a hospital mostly by me and a nurse. This was my 2nd wife's 3rd child biologically.

My third wife had our daughter in 1996 when I was 48 years old who is now 27 years old and just returned from Europe after being in college there since last summer.

I guess the point I'm making here is that I think the idea of a "Month to recover" and wrapping your womb area with cloth wrappings to help your uterus recover and not working a lot during the first month might make especially older mothers recover much more quickly.

Though people in their 50s now often have babies worldwide I think this isn't a good idea. The best results are often before 50 even if that woman is in perfect shape. Some of the problems of having babies over 50 are things like Early onset Dementia which isn't going to help anyone help that child to adulthood.

However, the previous article about women taking a month off to help their bodies adapt to the new situation and helping their uterus and other parts of their bodies recover makes a lot of sense to me at this point. 

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