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SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 16, 2014
reprint of "Psychic Rape"
THERE HAS BEEN A WHOLE LOT OF INTEREST ESPECIALLY BY WOMEN SINCE I WROTE THIS BACK IN AUGUST 2012 BECAUSE OF AN INCIDENT IN THE NEWS AT THAT TIME. I WROTE THIS TO TRY TO HELP PEOPLE UNDERSTAND BETTER WHAT IS HAPPENING IN THEIR LIVES. HOWEVER, PEOPLE OFTEN DON'T UNDERSTAND THAT HUMANS BIOLOGICALLY AND PSYCHOLOGICALLY ARE THE WAY WE ARE IN ORDER TO KEEP THE RACE ALIVE. WHETHER THOSE ASPECTS ARE GOOD OR BAD DEPENDS UPON WHAT CULTURE WE LIVE IN AT THE TIME. AND MORES OF WHAT IS GOOD AND WHAT IS BAD HAVE CHANGED OVER THOUSANDS OF YEARS THROUGH VARIOUS DIFFERENT CYCLES AND LIKELY WILL KEEP CHANGING THROUGHOUT ALL CULTURES FOR HUNDREDS OF THOUSANDS MORE YEARS IF THE HUMAN RACE SURVIVES ON EARTH THAT LONG.
TUESDAY, AUGUST 21, 2012
Psychic Rape
Because the subject of rape and abortion has come up I realized it might be the right moment to write about Psychic Rape. Because as an intuitive this is something I understand from observing life all my life.
One way to put this is that Sexual thoughts are a perfectly normal part of the lives of males and female humans and always have been. Religions and churches try to suppress these thoughts and to direct them as a way of channeling them in a controlling way that benefits the religions and churches and often makes people crazy. This I have observed over and over in people I have met throughout my life.
So, I have developed a more pragmatic approach that I have advocated to everyone I have met that was interested since my teens and early 20s regarding this.
One has to start with the fact that people having sexual thoughts are normal. Trying to make people not have sexual thoughts is about like telling people they cannot think about or eat food. It is the same thing.
So, my point of view is that sex for most people is sort of like food. If you don't get enough of it it makes you crazy. Period. Of course there are exceptions to this but I would say the exceptions are about 1 person in 10 and they usually never have children.
I remember holding my son in my arms after delivering him when I was 26 and I thought to myself, "So this is what all this has been about!" And I felt happy and at peace having felt I had discovered God anew in my new born son.
So then psychic rape is when someone sexually takes someone in fantasy in their mind(but not physically) without their permission. The problem with this can go in many directions.
First of all if you are an intuitive like me you know directly from 24 hours a day experiencing this that all thoughts and feelings are real. But, they are real in a different way than physical things are-sort of. In other words all thoughts and feelings affect reality in subtle or strong ways but they do not necessary change physical reality in any observable way.
For example, if someone was raped and murdered physically at some location and someone came in and cleaned up the body no one would know anything had happened. But a psychically sensitive person might pass that way and feel what had happened and be very upset and not ever want to go to that place ever again. And they may or may not know why.
Likewise, if any person has an extreme fantasy about having sex with someone else it always affects the relationship between those two people in some way, shape or form. This can be good or bad or any way in between. But it will have some effect upon any future relationship between them whether or not those two people ever have consensual sex or not.
So, for example, if two people are intuitives and one of those psychically rapes the other without the others psychic permission this could damage any possibility of an ongoing relationship ever happening between them.
So, what I'm cautioning people about is if you are going to fantasize about someone it is a good idea to at the very least ask in your mind what they other person feels about this. If they say "yes" in your mind it might be okay with them. But if you get "No" and still pursue this fantasy (not physically or verbally with them) but only with yourself it can create negative outcomes.
So, though I'm not advocating people be so disciplined that they never fantasize about another person, what I am saying is all this kind of stuff does have various kinds of consequences karmicly so if you are going to engage in these fantasies make sure you get permission from the other person's soul or else you could be generating negative karma.
Many people think that being physically true to your mate or significant other is what is important because often people have problems when they don't. However, most realistic adults who are not trying to drive themselves insane with celibacy see that physically being true to one's mate or significant other is as far as that loyalty goes. This seems to be a general consensus among mankind.
So, whatever you do physically or just in fantasy remember there often are consequences to almost everything you might think, feel or do that affects your life in some way, shape or form at some point.
So, developing your ethics around "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" on not only a physical but also a spiritual, mental and emotional level might be more important than you might think now long term.
One way to put this is that Sexual thoughts are a perfectly normal part of the lives of males and female humans and always have been. Religions and churches try to suppress these thoughts and to direct them as a way of channeling them in a controlling way that benefits the religions and churches and often makes people crazy. This I have observed over and over in people I have met throughout my life.
So, I have developed a more pragmatic approach that I have advocated to everyone I have met that was interested since my teens and early 20s regarding this.
One has to start with the fact that people having sexual thoughts are normal. Trying to make people not have sexual thoughts is about like telling people they cannot think about or eat food. It is the same thing.
So, my point of view is that sex for most people is sort of like food. If you don't get enough of it it makes you crazy. Period. Of course there are exceptions to this but I would say the exceptions are about 1 person in 10 and they usually never have children.
I remember holding my son in my arms after delivering him when I was 26 and I thought to myself, "So this is what all this has been about!" And I felt happy and at peace having felt I had discovered God anew in my new born son.
So then psychic rape is when someone sexually takes someone in fantasy in their mind(but not physically) without their permission. The problem with this can go in many directions.
First of all if you are an intuitive like me you know directly from 24 hours a day experiencing this that all thoughts and feelings are real. But, they are real in a different way than physical things are-sort of. In other words all thoughts and feelings affect reality in subtle or strong ways but they do not necessary change physical reality in any observable way.
For example, if someone was raped and murdered physically at some location and someone came in and cleaned up the body no one would know anything had happened. But a psychically sensitive person might pass that way and feel what had happened and be very upset and not ever want to go to that place ever again. And they may or may not know why.
Likewise, if any person has an extreme fantasy about having sex with someone else it always affects the relationship between those two people in some way, shape or form. This can be good or bad or any way in between. But it will have some effect upon any future relationship between them whether or not those two people ever have consensual sex or not.
So, for example, if two people are intuitives and one of those psychically rapes the other without the others psychic permission this could damage any possibility of an ongoing relationship ever happening between them.
So, what I'm cautioning people about is if you are going to fantasize about someone it is a good idea to at the very least ask in your mind what they other person feels about this. If they say "yes" in your mind it might be okay with them. But if you get "No" and still pursue this fantasy (not physically or verbally with them) but only with yourself it can create negative outcomes.
So, though I'm not advocating people be so disciplined that they never fantasize about another person, what I am saying is all this kind of stuff does have various kinds of consequences karmicly so if you are going to engage in these fantasies make sure you get permission from the other person's soul or else you could be generating negative karma.
Many people think that being physically true to your mate or significant other is what is important because often people have problems when they don't. However, most realistic adults who are not trying to drive themselves insane with celibacy see that physically being true to one's mate or significant other is as far as that loyalty goes. This seems to be a general consensus among mankind.
So, whatever you do physically or just in fantasy remember there often are consequences to almost everything you might think, feel or do that affects your life in some way, shape or form at some point.
So, developing your ethics around "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" on not only a physical but also a spiritual, mental and emotional level might be more important than you might think now long term.
4 comments:
- Anonymous said...
- Thank you SO much for this article. I experience psychic rape frequently. However, I have not had anyone openly admit to it's existence. This really pisses me off because it encourages a highly misogynistic attitude within the culture around me. A culture that gives one picture--female = sex and does not = brains, intelligence, or the right to work. It's embarrassing for them. It makes me want to kill myself because I am disregarded as a human with a conscience and an opinion ***mentally*** everyday.
The only thing this encourages is that I spread my legs and fuck whoever is willing to do it. It pisses me off. I have an opinion. I have a valid opinion. My opinion over my own body should govern how people respect my f*ckin' mental boundaries.
You know Christians, they just smile and nod and pretend "it's the devil" doing this. Or "it's God's will" that you have children so "a little arrousal" is okay. Atheists, they think that anything that breaking the Christian sexual boundaries is okay. They ALL euphamize and justify the sh*t out of sexual harassment. Because, you know, anything sexy, leads to sex, which leads to children, and God thinks that is okay. OR, anything sexy, leads to sex, and sex that isn't ordained by GOD is still acceptable and probable, and the more we have it, the more we prove we aren't dirty devils, therefore you should too.
Sexual advances psychically are no different than sexual advances physically. However, I have no proof that some asshole refuses to accept my answer of no. And some asshole keeps "attacking" me repeatedly as if my lack of something gives him the fucking right to continue doing it. It's the ultimate f*ck you. I have laws that dictate physical sexual harassment and sexual assault. I am brought up as a female and told to protect myself and "be on the look out". But when it comes to the mental bologna. I have no recourse. I have no law. And this means I am weak. It's the biggest f*cking lie I have ever experienced. How can the law do this to me?
Mostly because I have everyone from Christians to Atheists thinking I just "need to get laid." It's bullsh*t. And the obsessive thinking is coming externally, not internally. I can't believe I finally found someone admit this actually occurs in a negative fashion. I am so grateful you did this. Thank you. - August 6, 2013 at 2:55 PM
- intuitivefred888 said...
- There is another component to this that must be addressed for the whole thing to make more sense especially to females around the world. Females often sense when any male is looking at them while fantasizing about them or a part of their bodies.
However, if you also look at this from an anthropological point of view a male human is biologically predisposed to plant his seed in as many females as possible. It is just his genetic design through evolution and the universe. Whereas females seek out quality over quality because of their genetic makeup so their children can survive to adulthood. Recent studies have found that monogamy in all mammals likely is related to the males protecting the young from being killed by other males in all monagamist mammal species including humans. So, if you understand all this in addition to what I have written about psychic rape you have a much better understanding about what is actually going on whether you are male or female. - August 8, 2013 at 10:40 PM
- Anonymous said...
- Thank you for posting this...I also have experienced this and it is hard to deal with.
Nobody will take me seriously, but I am just trying to rebuild my self-esteem.
Thank you for posting this. - November 5, 2013 at 11:22 AM
- intuitivefred888 said...
- When I was 15 I went to a church beach party and all the women who were 30 to 50 or older commented on how my legs were so beautiful for a man. It felt very strange for all these women to covet me while I was wearing a bathing suit at the beach. This can be a good thing, a bad thing, but mostly a lot of both for a young man and it is definitely very confusing.
At the time I just went body surfing while they watched because it felt way too uncomfortable to be up on the beach with so many women eyeing me the way they were.
By the time I was 20 I had found ways to deal with this. But, it was always a two edged sword both good and bad at the same time.
I think it is the same for women as for young men in some ways.
Both men and women can be victimized by psychic rape. And it is usually both a good and a bad thing if you are sexually healthy in your mind and body.
So, finding a way to deal with this for anyone it happens to is what you have to learn about. Because if you are desirable, people naturally are going to desire you. And if they do you are going to experience a lot of this as they fantasize about you whether they are with you or not personally or physically. - November 5, 2013 at 12:53 PM
SATURDAY, APRIL 30, 2016
reprint of "Psychic Rape"
If you are an intuitive or even if you are not consciously an intuitive this is a description of how "Thought are things". A good way to think about this is that a car never was until someone thought about designing one, and then building one. Thoughts are all things in this sense, so one should be careful how they think because there are consequences to all thoughts and feelings. So, a thought and a feeling can be a reaction to something else but it also creates ongoing actions and reactions too which might reverberate for thousands of years throughout many generations of mankind.
Because the subject of rape and abortion has come up I realized it might be the right moment to write about Psychic Rape. Because as an intuitive this is something I understand from observing life all my life.
One way to put this is that Sexual thoughts are a perfectly normal part of the lives of males and female humans and always have been. Religions and churches try to suppress these thoughts and to direct them as a way of channeling them in a controlling way that benefits the religions and churches and often makes people crazy. This I have observed over and over in people I have met throughout my life.
So, I have developed a more pragmatic approach that I have advocated to everyone I have met that was interested since my teens and early 20s regarding this.
One has to start with the fact that people having sexual thoughts are normal. Trying to make people not have sexual thoughts is about like telling people they cannot think about or eat food. It is the same thing.
So, my point of view is that sex for most people is sort of like food. If you don't get enough of it it makes you crazy. Period. Of course there are exceptions to this but I would say the exceptions are about 1 person in 10 and they usually never have children.
I remember holding my son in my arms after delivering him when I was 26 and I thought to myself, "So this is what all this has been about!" And I felt happy and at peace having felt I had discovered God anew in my new born son.
So then psychic rape is when someone sexually takes someone in fantasy in their mind(but not physically) without their permission. The problem with this can go in many directions.
First of all if you are an intuitive like me you know directly from 24 hours a day experiencing this that all thoughts and feelings are real. But, they are real in a different way than physical things are-sort of. In other words all thoughts and feelings affect reality in subtle or strong ways but they do not necessary change physical reality in any observable way.
For example, if someone was raped and murdered physically at some location and someone came in and cleaned up the body no one would know anything had happened. But a psychically sensitive person might pass that way and feel what had happened and be very upset and not ever want to go to that place ever again. And they may or may not know why.
Likewise, if any person has an extreme fantasy about having sex with someone else it always affects the relationship between those two people in some way, shape or form. This can be good or bad or any way in between. But it will have some effect upon any future relationship between them whether or not those two people ever have consensual sex or not.
So, for example, if two people are intuitives and one of those psychically rapes the other without the others psychic permission this could damage any possibility of an ongoing relationship ever happening between them.
So, what I'm cautioning people about is if you are going to fantasize about someone it is a good idea to at the very least ask in your mind what they other person feels about this. If they say "yes" in your mind it might be okay with them. But if you get "No" and still pursue this fantasy (not physically or verbally with them) but only with yourself it can create negative outcomes.
So, though I'm not advocating people be so disciplined that they never fantasize about another person, what I am saying is all this kind of stuff does have various kinds of consequences karmicly so if you are going to engage in these fantasies make sure you get permission from the other person's soul or else you could be generating negative karma.
Many people think that being physically true to your mate or significant other is what is important because often people have problems when they don't. However, most realistic adults who are not trying to drive themselves insane with celibacy see that physically being true to one's mate or significant other is as far as that loyalty goes. This seems to be a general consensus among mankind.
So, whatever you do physically or just in fantasy remember there often are consequences to almost everything you might think, feel or do that affects your life in some way, shape or form at some point.
So, developing your ethics around "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" on not only a physical but also a spiritual, mental and emotional level might be more important than you might think now long term.
TUESDAY, AUGUST 21, 2012
Psychic Rape
One way to put this is that Sexual thoughts are a perfectly normal part of the lives of males and female humans and always have been. Religions and churches try to suppress these thoughts and to direct them as a way of channeling them in a controlling way that benefits the religions and churches and often makes people crazy. This I have observed over and over in people I have met throughout my life.
So, I have developed a more pragmatic approach that I have advocated to everyone I have met that was interested since my teens and early 20s regarding this.
One has to start with the fact that people having sexual thoughts are normal. Trying to make people not have sexual thoughts is about like telling people they cannot think about or eat food. It is the same thing.
So, my point of view is that sex for most people is sort of like food. If you don't get enough of it it makes you crazy. Period. Of course there are exceptions to this but I would say the exceptions are about 1 person in 10 and they usually never have children.
I remember holding my son in my arms after delivering him when I was 26 and I thought to myself, "So this is what all this has been about!" And I felt happy and at peace having felt I had discovered God anew in my new born son.
So then psychic rape is when someone sexually takes someone in fantasy in their mind(but not physically) without their permission. The problem with this can go in many directions.
First of all if you are an intuitive like me you know directly from 24 hours a day experiencing this that all thoughts and feelings are real. But, they are real in a different way than physical things are-sort of. In other words all thoughts and feelings affect reality in subtle or strong ways but they do not necessary change physical reality in any observable way.
For example, if someone was raped and murdered physically at some location and someone came in and cleaned up the body no one would know anything had happened. But a psychically sensitive person might pass that way and feel what had happened and be very upset and not ever want to go to that place ever again. And they may or may not know why.
Likewise, if any person has an extreme fantasy about having sex with someone else it always affects the relationship between those two people in some way, shape or form. This can be good or bad or any way in between. But it will have some effect upon any future relationship between them whether or not those two people ever have consensual sex or not.
So, for example, if two people are intuitives and one of those psychically rapes the other without the others psychic permission this could damage any possibility of an ongoing relationship ever happening between them.
So, what I'm cautioning people about is if you are going to fantasize about someone it is a good idea to at the very least ask in your mind what they other person feels about this. If they say "yes" in your mind it might be okay with them. But if you get "No" and still pursue this fantasy (not physically or verbally with them) but only with yourself it can create negative outcomes.
So, though I'm not advocating people be so disciplined that they never fantasize about another person, what I am saying is all this kind of stuff does have various kinds of consequences karmicly so if you are going to engage in these fantasies make sure you get permission from the other person's soul or else you could be generating negative karma.
Many people think that being physically true to your mate or significant other is what is important because often people have problems when they don't. However, most realistic adults who are not trying to drive themselves insane with celibacy see that physically being true to one's mate or significant other is as far as that loyalty goes. This seems to be a general consensus among mankind.
So, whatever you do physically or just in fantasy remember there often are consequences to almost everything you might think, feel or do that affects your life in some way, shape or form at some point.
So, developing your ethics around "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" on not only a physical but also a spiritual, mental and emotional level might be more important than you might think now long term.
MONDAY, JUNE 23, 2014
A lady from Northern California sent me an email asking if I had written about rape because when she put in rape into Google it came up with something regarding my site but not what she had expected. I returned her email and told her I wrote about "Psychic Rape" and that I had also written about how in the 1960s many people had to get married because of Date Rape because there wasn't legal abortion yet.
Also, I didn't say that it was because there was a lot more ignorance then regarding sex and a lot more ignorance then regarding alcohol, drugs etc. many people got date raped and pregnant and had to get married because abortions weren't legal yet. So, there was this "shotgun" wedding approach used a lot then that was sort of "You knocked up my daughter, marry her or I'll kill you!" which was like that for thousands of years. Because of abortion in the 1970s shotgun weddings became a lot less common after that.
Here is another article I found by putting in "Rape" into the search engine at my site that came up:
In feminism, rape culture is a concept that links rape and sexual violence to the culture of a society,[1] and in which prevalent attitudes and practices normalize, excuse, tolerate, and even condone rape.[2]
Examples of behaviors commonly associated with rape culture include victim blaming, sexual objectification, and trivializing rape. Rape culture has been used to model behavior within social groups, including prison rape and conflict areas where war rape is used as psychological warfare. Entire countries have also been alleged to be rape cultures.[3][4][5][6][7]
Although the concept of rape culture is used in feminist academia,[8] there is disagreement over what defines a rape culture and to what degree a given society meets the criteria to be considered a rape culture.[3]
Rape culture has been observed to correlate with other social factors and behaviors. Research identifies correlation between rape myths, victim blaming and trivialization of rape with increased incidence of racism, homophobia, ageism, classism, religious intolerance, and other forms of discrimination.[9][10]
According to the Encyclopedia of Rape:
Sociology professor Joyce E. Williams traces the origin and first usage of the term rape culture[16] to the 1975 documentary film Rape Culture produced and directed by Margaret Lazarus and Renner Wunderlich for Cambridge Documentary Films. Professor Williams says that the film "takes credit for first defining the concept".[16] The film discussed rape of both men and women in the context of a larger cultural normalization of rape.[17][18] In 2000, Lazarus stated that she believed the movie was the first use of the term.[19] The film featured the work of the DC Rape Crisis Centre in co-operation with Prisoners Against Rape, Inc.[20] It included interviews with rapists and victims as well as prominent anti-rape activists like feminist philosopher and theologian Mary Daly and author and artist Emily Culpepper. The film also explored the mass media, how film-makers, song writers, writers, and magazines perpetuated attitudes towards rape.[18]
In a 1992 paper, in the Journal of Social Issues, entitled "A Feminist Redefinition of Rape and Sexual Assault: Historical Foundations and Change", Patricia Donat and John D'Emilio suggested that the term originated as "rape-supportive culture"[21] in Susan Brownmiller's 1975 book Against Our Will: Men, Women, and Rape. Brownmiller, a member of the New York Radical Feminists, showed how both academia and the general public ignored the existence of rape.[22]The book is considered a "landmark" work on feminism and sexual violence and one of the pillars of modern rape studies.[23]
The SlutWalk and Besharmi Morcha movements are credited with popularizing the term via certain mass media reports about the protesters in the English-speaking Western media.[26] The rallies aim to raise awareness of rape culture—which they define as a culture where "sexual violence is both made to be invisible and inevitable"—and to end slut-shaming and victim blaming.[27] [28] One primary goal of this organization is to deconstruct the stigma that often comes with being a victim of rape or sexual-assault. Cities that have hosted SlutWalks include but are not limited to: (In the U.S.) Seattle, Boston, Chicago, Spokane, Austin, and Philadelphia. The original SlutWalk first took place in the city of Toronto, Canada.[24]
According to some, the root cause of rape culture is the "domination and objectivication [sic] of women".[30] However, academic theory holds that rape culture does not necessarily have a single cause, and causes may be localized based on other social aspects of culture.[31] For example, in South Africa the overriding "war culture" which emphasized masculinity and violence led to a culture in which rape was normalized[28][30] A University of California Davis public document alleged that the enforcement of the following of social rules by women and the conditioning of gender roles were major causes.[32] Others have also advanced the notion that, in a rape culture women are conditioned to assume responsibility for male sexuality, and gender roles are socially constructed and enforced on women through fear.[33]
In a study of date rape, gender-based miscommunications were held to be a major factor supporting a campus rape culture.[34] The general unwillingness of police and district attorneys to prosecute rapes where force was not involved or where the victim had some sort of relationship with the aggressor is also cited as a motivation for date rape and campus rape.[31] In addition, there have been reported incidents of colleges questioning accounts of alleged victims, further complicating documentation and policing of student assaults, despite such preventative legislation as the Clery Act.[35][36]
Rape culture is also closely related to slut-shaming and victim blaming, where rape victims are considered at fault for being raped, and it is argued that this connection is due to the presence of a culture that shames all female sexuality.[31] That some rapes are not reported to the police due to fear that they would not be believed is often cited as a symptom of a rape culture,[31][37] that they thought the police would not believe them is cited as a reason by 6% of women who did not report rape.[38]
Pornography has also been commonly targeted as a contributor to rape culture because it is said to contribute to larger patterns of oppression. Feminists frequently link rape culture to the widespread distribution of pornography, which is seen as an expression of a rape culture that objectifies women, reducing the female body to a commodity.[39] The fusion of several pornographic motifs are seen in the accounts of rapists.[40]
Although much of its early use as a theory to explain the occurrence of rape and domestic violence was focused on the rape of women, rape culture has been described as detrimental to men as well as women. Some writers and speakers, such as Jackson Katz, Michael Kimmel, and Don McPherson, have said that it is intrinsically linked to gender roles that limit male self-expression and cause psychological harm to men.[41]
According to Michael Parenti, rape culture manifests through the acceptance of rapes as an everyday occurrence, and even a male prerogative. It can be exacerbated by police apathy in handling rape cases, as well as victim blaming, reluctance by the authorities to go against patriarchial cultural norms, as well as fears of stigmatization from rape victims and their families.[42] Other sociologists posit that rape culture links nonconsensual sex to the cultural fabric of a society, where patriarchial world views, laced with misogyny and gender inequality, are passed from generation to generation, leading to widespread social and institutional acceptance of rape.
Feminists and sexual activists conceptualize rape cultures that encourage gender violence, as well as perpetuate "rape myths", ranging from treating rape as merely "rough sex" to blaming the victim for inviting rape. Such "rape myths" are social messages that command women to assume pre-defined gender roles concerning sexual behavior.[43] This idea is reflected in spousal rape. Rape culture perpetuates particular rape myths that are then codified into law. Emergence of the concepts like ′intimate partner rape′[44] or ′marital rape′ is one consequence of these rape myths. In addition, rape culture can manifest when third parties separate the violence from the general reputation and character of the perpetrators.[45]
According to political scientist Iris Marion Young, victims in rape cultures live in fear of random acts of oppressive sexual violence that are intended to damage or humiliate the victim.[46] Others link rape culture with modernisation and industrialisation, arguing that pre-industrial societies tend to be "rape free" cultures, since the lower status of women in these societies give them some immunity from sexual violence. In industrial rape cultures, women emerge from their homebound roles and make their presence felt in the workplace and other areas traditionally dominated by men, increasing male insecurities that lead to them using rape as a countering method.[40][47] Others also link rape culture to environmental insecurities, where men objectify women as part of their struggle to control their immediate environment. It is also linked to gender segregation, and the belief that rape proves masculinity.[48] Other manifestations of rape culture include denial of widespread rape,[49] institutional apathy towards the problem of rape,[50]minimization of rape cases by government officials,[49][50][51] and excusing rapists as social anomalies.[49][50]
Rape culture can be perpetuated via language used in everyday conversations. The frequency of rape jokes on the internet has been cited as an example of the belittling of rape that characterizes rape culture.[52] Prison rape is a topic about which jokes are abundant. Linda McFarlane, director of Just Detention International, states "Humor is part of the cultural attitude that (prison) is the one place where rape is okay."[53]
Victim blaming is the phenomenon in which a victim of a crime or an accident is partially or entirely attributed or responsible for the transgressions committed against them.[54] An example of this could take place when a victim of a crime, (in this case rape or sexual assault), is asked questions by the police, in an emergency room, or in a court room, that suggests that the victim was doing something, acting a certain way, or wearing clothes that may have provoked the perpetrator, therefore making the transgressions against the victim their own fault.[55][56] This is an example of victim blaming committed by the authorities. However, this could also occur among a victim’s peers.[57][58] Also, while there is not a lot of general discussion of rape facilitated in the home, schools, or government agencies, what information or conversation there is often time perpetuates rape culture due to the focus of the emphasis on techniques of “how not to be raped,” vs “how not to rape.” [59][60] This is problematic due to the stigma created and transgressed against the already victimized individuals rather than stigmatizing the aggressive actions of rape and the rapists.[60] It is also commonly viewed that prisoners in prison deserve to be raped and is a reasonable form of punishment for the crimes they committed. However, this view merely fosters indifference to prison rape victims.
Slut shaming is a variant on victim blaming, to do with the shaming of sexual behaviour. It describes the way people are made to feel guilty or inferior for certain sexual behaviors or desires that deviate from traditional or orthodox gender expectations. The SlutWalk movement aims to challenge victim blaming, slut shaming and rape culture.
Rape advocates often play a role in the recovery of rape victims. A rape advocate is an individual, employed or volunteer, who works directly with victims of sexual assault, advocating on their behalf during the hospital procedures and informing them of their rights and the local resources available to them. Rape advocates are often trained through local social service agencies and sexual assault recovery programs. Advocates can also answer calls for help from local sexual assault crisis phone lines. Within the social service agency, there are often advocates who specialize in various fields such as counseling, legal assistance, group therapy and activism.[64]
Caroline Kitchensi, in a 2014 article in Time Magazine titled "It’s Time to End ‘Rape Culture’ Hysteria" suggested that "Though rape is certainly a serious problem, there’s no evidence that it’s considered a cultural norm. ...On college campuses, obsession with eliminating 'rape culture' has led to censorship and hysteria." [67] Heather MacDonald suggested that "In a delicious historical irony, the baby boomers who dismantled the university’s intellectual architecture in favor of unbridled sex and protest have now bureaucratized both." [68] According to Joyce E. Williams, "the major criticism of rape culture and the feminist theory from which it emanates is the monolithic implication that ultimately all women are victimized by all men."[1]
Christina Hoff Sommers has disputed the existence of rape culture, arguing that the common "one in four women will be raped in her lifetime" claim is based on a flawed study, but frequently cited because it leads to campus anti-rape groups receiving public funding. Sommers has also examined and criticized many other rape studies for their methodology, and states, "There are many researchers who study rape victimization, but their relatively low figures generate no headlines."[3]
Sommers and others[69] have specifically questioned Mary Koss's oft-cited 1984 study that claimed 1 in 4 college women have been victims of rape, charging it overstated rape of women and downplayed the incidence of men being the victims of unwanted sex. According to Sommers, as many as 73% of the subjects of Koss's study disagreed with her characterization that they had been raped,[70] while others have pointed out that Koss's study focused on the victimization of women, downplaying the significance of sexual victimization of men,[69] even though its own data indicated one in seven college men had been victims of unwanted sex.[71]Sommers points out that Koss had deliberately narrowed the definition of unwanted sexual encounters for men to instances where men were penetrated.[72]
Other writers, such as bell hooks, have criticized the rape culture paradigm on the grounds that it is too narrowly focused; in 1984, she wrote that it ignores rape's place in an overarching "culture of violence".[73] In 1993 she contributed a chapter to a book on rape culture, focusing on rape culture in the context of patriarchy in black culture.[74]
Barbara Kay, a Canadian journalist, has been critical of feminist Mary Koss's discussion of rape culture, describing the notion that “rape represents an extreme behavior but one that is on a continuum with normal male behavior within the culture" as "remarkably misandric".[75]
Jadaliyya, an academic initiative by the Arab Studies Institute, published another critique of the concept of rape culture, criticizing the appropriation of the term by orientalists to promote raciststereotypes of Arab and Muslim men, as well as stereotypes of South Asians in western media and academia. The critique draws connections between media reports demonizing Middle Eastern and South Asian men as "racially prone to rape" and similar tactics employed by the British as part of a racist Indophobic propaganda campaign during the 1857 rebellion casting resistance fighters as rapists.[76]
The UN conducted its ‘Multi-country Study on Men and Violence in Asia and the Pacific’ in 2008 in six countries across Asia. Its conclusions, published in 2013, seemed to indicate a substantial number of men in Asian countries admit to committing some form of rape. The study’s general conclusion about high levels of rape have been recognized as reliable; however, questions about its accuracy perpetuate the debate about how societies perceive rape and social norms. A closer look at the study’s methodology reveals questions about cultural definitions of rape, the study’s sample size, survey design, and linguistic accuracy, all of which highlights ongoing challenges in trying to quantify the prevalence of rape.[77]
Also, I didn't say that it was because there was a lot more ignorance then regarding sex and a lot more ignorance then regarding alcohol, drugs etc. many people got date raped and pregnant and had to get married because abortions weren't legal yet. So, there was this "shotgun" wedding approach used a lot then that was sort of "You knocked up my daughter, marry her or I'll kill you!" which was like that for thousands of years. Because of abortion in the 1970s shotgun weddings became a lot less common after that.
Here is another article I found by putting in "Rape" into the search engine at my site that came up:
FRIDAY, MAY 30, 2014
Rape Culture?
Since what happened in Isla Vista at UCSB there has been a lot of soul searching among males across the U.S. especially males analyzing misogynistic tendencies in themselves and their friends.
I was reading:
- Your Princess is in another Castle: Misogyny, Enti...
- and realized I should write about this.
- I wanted to share what it was like even in the 1960s. I was in I believe Solano Beach or that area and watching a group called "White Lightning" at a bar around 1970 and two very masculine guys picked up two girls and soon they went out to a van outside. When they came in one of the girls was crying and the other didn't look very happy. This was pretty normal because date rape in the 1960s and before was how most babies came about if people weren't married yet. Because abortion wasn't legal and people were still figuring out the birth control pill. So, if you were not having casual sex regularly then you didn't have birth control. It was that simple. So, if something unexpected happened people often got pregnant. And then, date rape was much more common that now because men felt much more entitled then than now and also women were much less likely to stand up for themselves the way they do now either.
- So, I guess what I'm saying here is that Rape or date rape when I was growing up was the primary cause of people getting married. That and forgetting to use birth control because everyone was too stoned to know even what they were doing. And if everyone is too stoned who is to blame for the pregnancy? (The people who wake up and have to deal with it in the morning.)
Rape culture
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This article is about the concept of rape culture. For the film, see Rape Culture (film).
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Examples of behaviors commonly associated with rape culture include victim blaming, sexual objectification, and trivializing rape. Rape culture has been used to model behavior within social groups, including prison rape and conflict areas where war rape is used as psychological warfare. Entire countries have also been alleged to be rape cultures.[3][4][5][6][7]
Although the concept of rape culture is used in feminist academia,[8] there is disagreement over what defines a rape culture and to what degree a given society meets the criteria to be considered a rape culture.[3]
Rape culture has been observed to correlate with other social factors and behaviors. Research identifies correlation between rape myths, victim blaming and trivialization of rape with increased incidence of racism, homophobia, ageism, classism, religious intolerance, and other forms of discrimination.[9][10]
CONTENTS
ORIGINS AND USAGE
During the early 1970s, feminists began to engage in consciousness-raising efforts to educate the public about the reality of rape. According to Alexandra Rutherford, "Until the 1970s, most Americans assumed that rape, incest, and wife-beating rarely happened."[11] The idea of rape culture was one result of these efforts.According to the Encyclopedia of Rape:
- "The term 'rape culture' originated in the 1970s during the second wave feminist movementand is often used by feminists to describe contemporary American culture as a whole."[12]The concept appeared in multiple forms of media during the mid-1970s.
Sociology professor Joyce E. Williams traces the origin and first usage of the term rape culture[16] to the 1975 documentary film Rape Culture produced and directed by Margaret Lazarus and Renner Wunderlich for Cambridge Documentary Films. Professor Williams says that the film "takes credit for first defining the concept".[16] The film discussed rape of both men and women in the context of a larger cultural normalization of rape.[17][18] In 2000, Lazarus stated that she believed the movie was the first use of the term.[19] The film featured the work of the DC Rape Crisis Centre in co-operation with Prisoners Against Rape, Inc.[20] It included interviews with rapists and victims as well as prominent anti-rape activists like feminist philosopher and theologian Mary Daly and author and artist Emily Culpepper. The film also explored the mass media, how film-makers, song writers, writers, and magazines perpetuated attitudes towards rape.[18]
In a 1992 paper, in the Journal of Social Issues, entitled "A Feminist Redefinition of Rape and Sexual Assault: Historical Foundations and Change", Patricia Donat and John D'Emilio suggested that the term originated as "rape-supportive culture"[21] in Susan Brownmiller's 1975 book Against Our Will: Men, Women, and Rape. Brownmiller, a member of the New York Radical Feminists, showed how both academia and the general public ignored the existence of rape.[22]The book is considered a "landmark" work on feminism and sexual violence and one of the pillars of modern rape studies.[23]
SlutWalk
SlutWalk is a feminist organization that formed in response to a public statement made by Toronto police officer Michael Sanguinetti on January 24, 2011.[24] While addressing the issue of campus rape at a York University safety forum, Sanguinetti stated that "women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized."[25]The SlutWalk and Besharmi Morcha movements are credited with popularizing the term via certain mass media reports about the protesters in the English-speaking Western media.[26] The rallies aim to raise awareness of rape culture—which they define as a culture where "sexual violence is both made to be invisible and inevitable"—and to end slut-shaming and victim blaming.[27] [28] One primary goal of this organization is to deconstruct the stigma that often comes with being a victim of rape or sexual-assault. Cities that have hosted SlutWalks include but are not limited to: (In the U.S.) Seattle, Boston, Chicago, Spokane, Austin, and Philadelphia. The original SlutWalk first took place in the city of Toronto, Canada.[24]
THEORY AND MANIFESTATIONS
According to Chris O'Sullivan, acts of sexism are commonly employed to validate and rationalizenormative misogynistic practices. For instance, sexist jokes may be told to foster disrespect for women and an accompanying disregard for their well-being. An example would be a female rape victim being blamed for her being raped because of how she dressed or acted. In O'Sullivan's article, sexualized violence towards women is regarded as a continuum of a society that regards women's bodies as sexually available by default.[29]According to some, the root cause of rape culture is the "domination and objectivication [sic] of women".[30] However, academic theory holds that rape culture does not necessarily have a single cause, and causes may be localized based on other social aspects of culture.[31] For example, in South Africa the overriding "war culture" which emphasized masculinity and violence led to a culture in which rape was normalized[28][30] A University of California Davis public document alleged that the enforcement of the following of social rules by women and the conditioning of gender roles were major causes.[32] Others have also advanced the notion that, in a rape culture women are conditioned to assume responsibility for male sexuality, and gender roles are socially constructed and enforced on women through fear.[33]
In a study of date rape, gender-based miscommunications were held to be a major factor supporting a campus rape culture.[34] The general unwillingness of police and district attorneys to prosecute rapes where force was not involved or where the victim had some sort of relationship with the aggressor is also cited as a motivation for date rape and campus rape.[31] In addition, there have been reported incidents of colleges questioning accounts of alleged victims, further complicating documentation and policing of student assaults, despite such preventative legislation as the Clery Act.[35][36]
Rape culture is also closely related to slut-shaming and victim blaming, where rape victims are considered at fault for being raped, and it is argued that this connection is due to the presence of a culture that shames all female sexuality.[31] That some rapes are not reported to the police due to fear that they would not be believed is often cited as a symptom of a rape culture,[31][37] that they thought the police would not believe them is cited as a reason by 6% of women who did not report rape.[38]
Pornography has also been commonly targeted as a contributor to rape culture because it is said to contribute to larger patterns of oppression. Feminists frequently link rape culture to the widespread distribution of pornography, which is seen as an expression of a rape culture that objectifies women, reducing the female body to a commodity.[39] The fusion of several pornographic motifs are seen in the accounts of rapists.[40]
Although much of its early use as a theory to explain the occurrence of rape and domestic violence was focused on the rape of women, rape culture has been described as detrimental to men as well as women. Some writers and speakers, such as Jackson Katz, Michael Kimmel, and Don McPherson, have said that it is intrinsically linked to gender roles that limit male self-expression and cause psychological harm to men.[41]
According to Michael Parenti, rape culture manifests through the acceptance of rapes as an everyday occurrence, and even a male prerogative. It can be exacerbated by police apathy in handling rape cases, as well as victim blaming, reluctance by the authorities to go against patriarchial cultural norms, as well as fears of stigmatization from rape victims and their families.[42] Other sociologists posit that rape culture links nonconsensual sex to the cultural fabric of a society, where patriarchial world views, laced with misogyny and gender inequality, are passed from generation to generation, leading to widespread social and institutional acceptance of rape.
Feminists and sexual activists conceptualize rape cultures that encourage gender violence, as well as perpetuate "rape myths", ranging from treating rape as merely "rough sex" to blaming the victim for inviting rape. Such "rape myths" are social messages that command women to assume pre-defined gender roles concerning sexual behavior.[43] This idea is reflected in spousal rape. Rape culture perpetuates particular rape myths that are then codified into law. Emergence of the concepts like ′intimate partner rape′[44] or ′marital rape′ is one consequence of these rape myths. In addition, rape culture can manifest when third parties separate the violence from the general reputation and character of the perpetrators.[45]
According to political scientist Iris Marion Young, victims in rape cultures live in fear of random acts of oppressive sexual violence that are intended to damage or humiliate the victim.[46] Others link rape culture with modernisation and industrialisation, arguing that pre-industrial societies tend to be "rape free" cultures, since the lower status of women in these societies give them some immunity from sexual violence. In industrial rape cultures, women emerge from their homebound roles and make their presence felt in the workplace and other areas traditionally dominated by men, increasing male insecurities that lead to them using rape as a countering method.[40][47] Others also link rape culture to environmental insecurities, where men objectify women as part of their struggle to control their immediate environment. It is also linked to gender segregation, and the belief that rape proves masculinity.[48] Other manifestations of rape culture include denial of widespread rape,[49] institutional apathy towards the problem of rape,[50]minimization of rape cases by government officials,[49][50][51] and excusing rapists as social anomalies.[49][50]
Rape culture can be perpetuated via language used in everyday conversations. The frequency of rape jokes on the internet has been cited as an example of the belittling of rape that characterizes rape culture.[52] Prison rape is a topic about which jokes are abundant. Linda McFarlane, director of Just Detention International, states "Humor is part of the cultural attitude that (prison) is the one place where rape is okay."[53]
VICTIM BLAMING AND SLUT SHAMING
For more details on this topic, see Victim blaming and Slut-shaming.Victim blaming is the phenomenon in which a victim of a crime or an accident is partially or entirely attributed or responsible for the transgressions committed against them.[54] An example of this could take place when a victim of a crime, (in this case rape or sexual assault), is asked questions by the police, in an emergency room, or in a court room, that suggests that the victim was doing something, acting a certain way, or wearing clothes that may have provoked the perpetrator, therefore making the transgressions against the victim their own fault.[55][56] This is an example of victim blaming committed by the authorities. However, this could also occur among a victim’s peers.[57][58] Also, while there is not a lot of general discussion of rape facilitated in the home, schools, or government agencies, what information or conversation there is often time perpetuates rape culture due to the focus of the emphasis on techniques of “how not to be raped,” vs “how not to rape.” [59][60] This is problematic due to the stigma created and transgressed against the already victimized individuals rather than stigmatizing the aggressive actions of rape and the rapists.[60] It is also commonly viewed that prisoners in prison deserve to be raped and is a reasonable form of punishment for the crimes they committed. However, this view merely fosters indifference to prison rape victims.
Slut shaming is a variant on victim blaming, to do with the shaming of sexual behaviour. It describes the way people are made to feel guilty or inferior for certain sexual behaviors or desires that deviate from traditional or orthodox gender expectations. The SlutWalk movement aims to challenge victim blaming, slut shaming and rape culture.
SEXUAL ASSAULT ADVOCACY AND TREATMENT
Nurses, doctors and hospital staff are often trained to deal with the emotional well-being of rape victims.[61] The individuals that work closely with victims during the aftermath are often the first people the victim sees after the traumatic event and can play an important role in their recovery.[62] Hospital staff that portray understanding and helpful behavior may leave the victim a sense of control and a positive outlook on their future in spite of their experience.[63]Rape advocates often play a role in the recovery of rape victims. A rape advocate is an individual, employed or volunteer, who works directly with victims of sexual assault, advocating on their behalf during the hospital procedures and informing them of their rights and the local resources available to them. Rape advocates are often trained through local social service agencies and sexual assault recovery programs. Advocates can also answer calls for help from local sexual assault crisis phone lines. Within the social service agency, there are often advocates who specialize in various fields such as counseling, legal assistance, group therapy and activism.[64]
CRITICISMS
RAINN, one of North America's leading anti-sexual violence organization, in a report detailing recommendations to the White House on combating rape on college campuses, decries an overemphasis on the concept of rape culture as a means of preventing rape and as a cause for rape, saying, "In the last few years, there has been an unfortunate trend towards blaming 'rape culture' for the extensive problem of sexual violence on campuses. While it is helpful to point out the systemic barriers to addressing the problem, it is important to not lose sight of a simple fact: Rape is caused not by cultural factors but by the conscious decisions, of a small percentage of the community, to commit a violent crime".[65] It is estimated that in college, 90% of rapes are committed by 3% of the male population, though it is stipulated that they do not have reliable numbers for female perpetrators. RAINN argues that rape is the product of individuals who have decided to disregard the overwhelming cultural message that rape is wrong. The report argues that trend towards focusing on cultural factors that supposedly condone rape "has the paradoxical effect of making it harder to stop sexual violence, since it removes the focus from the individual at fault, and seemingly mitigates personal responsibility for his or her own actions".[66]Caroline Kitchensi, in a 2014 article in Time Magazine titled "It’s Time to End ‘Rape Culture’ Hysteria" suggested that "Though rape is certainly a serious problem, there’s no evidence that it’s considered a cultural norm. ...On college campuses, obsession with eliminating 'rape culture' has led to censorship and hysteria." [67] Heather MacDonald suggested that "In a delicious historical irony, the baby boomers who dismantled the university’s intellectual architecture in favor of unbridled sex and protest have now bureaucratized both." [68] According to Joyce E. Williams, "the major criticism of rape culture and the feminist theory from which it emanates is the monolithic implication that ultimately all women are victimized by all men."[1]
Christina Hoff Sommers has disputed the existence of rape culture, arguing that the common "one in four women will be raped in her lifetime" claim is based on a flawed study, but frequently cited because it leads to campus anti-rape groups receiving public funding. Sommers has also examined and criticized many other rape studies for their methodology, and states, "There are many researchers who study rape victimization, but their relatively low figures generate no headlines."[3]
Sommers and others[69] have specifically questioned Mary Koss's oft-cited 1984 study that claimed 1 in 4 college women have been victims of rape, charging it overstated rape of women and downplayed the incidence of men being the victims of unwanted sex. According to Sommers, as many as 73% of the subjects of Koss's study disagreed with her characterization that they had been raped,[70] while others have pointed out that Koss's study focused on the victimization of women, downplaying the significance of sexual victimization of men,[69] even though its own data indicated one in seven college men had been victims of unwanted sex.[71]Sommers points out that Koss had deliberately narrowed the definition of unwanted sexual encounters for men to instances where men were penetrated.[72]
Other writers, such as bell hooks, have criticized the rape culture paradigm on the grounds that it is too narrowly focused; in 1984, she wrote that it ignores rape's place in an overarching "culture of violence".[73] In 1993 she contributed a chapter to a book on rape culture, focusing on rape culture in the context of patriarchy in black culture.[74]
Barbara Kay, a Canadian journalist, has been critical of feminist Mary Koss's discussion of rape culture, describing the notion that “rape represents an extreme behavior but one that is on a continuum with normal male behavior within the culture" as "remarkably misandric".[75]
Jadaliyya, an academic initiative by the Arab Studies Institute, published another critique of the concept of rape culture, criticizing the appropriation of the term by orientalists to promote raciststereotypes of Arab and Muslim men, as well as stereotypes of South Asians in western media and academia. The critique draws connections between media reports demonizing Middle Eastern and South Asian men as "racially prone to rape" and similar tactics employed by the British as part of a racist Indophobic propaganda campaign during the 1857 rebellion casting resistance fighters as rapists.[76]
The UN conducted its ‘Multi-country Study on Men and Violence in Asia and the Pacific’ in 2008 in six countries across Asia. Its conclusions, published in 2013, seemed to indicate a substantial number of men in Asian countries admit to committing some form of rape. The study’s general conclusion about high levels of rape have been recognized as reliable; however, questions about its accuracy perpetuate the debate about how societies perceive rape and social norms. A closer look at the study’s methodology reveals questions about cultural definitions of rape, the study’s sample size, survey design, and linguistic accuracy, all of which highlights ongoing challenges in trying to quantify the prevalence of rape.[77]
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