What does Grief do?

What it is supposed to do is is to help you adapt to the extreme changes in your life like a breakup, a death of a family member or a friend or a disaster where many people die somewhere around the world. For example, I am meeting many people here in California that are in a state of Grief worrying about Trump getting into office. I have never seen it to this degree before because so many people are just horrified Trump might get elected. So, people are having serious stress and health problems because it might be a toss up between Trump, or Hitler or Putin and wondering which would be better for them if that person was elected. So, the level of terror regarding Trump is making people ill all over the U.S. right now. So, it likely is causing some people to die even ahead of their time. And this isn't just in the U.S. this is worldwide.

However, normally grief is about loved ones passing on and friends passing on.

IN my own case I can count at least 35 friends and relatives that have died since 1985 when my father died. And before my father died his father and mother died in the early 1970s. And then my mother's mother who lived with my parents and I passed away in 1978. Then my Aunt passed away from a melanoma on her arm in 1995. And then in the 2000s both my friends and relatives (peers) started dying who are around my age to the point where I only have one cousin I still have contact with on my Dad's side and one friend from the 1960s still live that I ski with and 4 wheel drive with and sometimes travel snorkeling to Hawaii with.

The very worst year for this was 2008 when first my favorite aunt died, then my father in law died, then my mother died and then my favorite female cousin died. This was pretty awful. But, I'm still alive 8 years later.

So, if your elders pass away one of the reasons is everyone their age or older has already died before them and then it is really hard to stay alive for your kids and grand kids while being the eldest person left around still alive.

So as an elder and older person the way I presently stay alive is cherishing everyone that is still around and still alive.

By God's Grace