Writing: or "You don't know what you know until you know it"

For me, writing is what I do to communicate with my future self. To remind my future self of the hard won lessons in my life, of what mistakes not to repeat a second time, especially in relationships. Though I have now traveled all over the world I still remember the little boy I once was in Seattle and San Diego and in Los Angeles County that were my formative years. I remember being an only child without brothers or sisters to count on. I had a cousin 5 years older than I from the time I was 6 that lived nearby and we became like brothers and in some ways we still are brothers because most of the rest of our family is gone now. So, whenever I visit he and his wife we go sailing in their boat like I have with he and then her since 1968 when I was 20 and he was 25 or 6 and just got his law degree from NYU Law School years ago now.

So, for me, writing has been about a time capsule of the lessons I learned or ways of expressing myself throughout my life.

We are all 100s of people during our lives as we learn new things about ourselves and others throughout our lives. We all start out idealistic and dewey eyed and soon that is knocked down and we become pragmatic or we go insane and die soon one or the other usually.

So, each lesson we learn in life helps us to survive another day and writing about what we are learning not only helps us now but also into the far far future as well. Hopefully.

So, for me, during my 20s I went from being very idealistic and a ladies man with a lot of girlfriends to a married man and a father to starting businesses to support my wife and children ongoing.

And the lesson one learns dating a lot of different women is that when you get married and have kids you have to sort of unlearn all that to stay married and be there for your wife and children ongoing.