Practicality often equals survival (for you and your children)

What I mean by this is if you live at all in life, life will leave you in shreds at least once before you turn 30. People often do not survive this either mentally or physically. So, unless you are of strong stock both mentally and physically often none of us can survive these times which take us to 30 years of age and beyond.

The problem is "Lose your Dreams and you will lose your mind".

And if you live to be 30 without this happening you aren't really living at all.

So, living is a lot like dying in that to enjoy life often you have to suffer too. And unless you are ready to do both often you cannot survive at all.


People when young often say things like "If I can't be with this person or that person I don't want to be alive." I know, I said this to myself too. But, the reality is there is NOT just one person meant for you in your life. There might be 100 or more that you will meet along the way at some point.

Not only this you and every other person in your life will keep changing. So, even if your relationship is perfect right now often all that changes within 5 to 10 years time. This can be difficult too.

For example, I have been mostly married now since I was 26 and I'm now 70. In fact I can say to you straight faced that I was only basically NOT MARRIED before 26 and between 29 and 32. The entire rest of my life I have been married to 3 different women (sequential monogamy) and I had one biological child with each of them. And I'm close to each of my children. My first ex-wife and I are friends now and my 2nd ex-wife and I never speak to each other and my 3rd wife I have been with since about January 1995 or earlier and we married in Yosemite national Park in late 1995.

So, people say, "If I can't live with this one person I don't want to live at all!" I've been there too more than once. But, actually this is a lie both to yourself and to the world. There are other people for you out there usually. It's up to you to find the person you should be with (at least for now) in your life.

Don't take your own life. Instead look for the person you should be with (at least for now).

By God's Grace