Monday, September 24, 2012

The Progress of Women in a Man's World

When I grew up in the 1950s (in 1950 I was 2 and in 1960 I was 12) people were very much less self aware than they are now generally speaking. People were generally more concerned with staying alive and much less concerned with how everyone survived. So, though people might be very helpful in some ways to other family members they wouldn't go out of their way as much as now for people outside the basic survival unit of the family.

Still, today in most of the world men tend to eat up women sort of like they would a can of beans or a steak with no thought at all of the real value of the woman or women in their lives. This is a very animalistic survival oriented place to be, but you see this a lot traveling around the world to this day.

Rather than to put down or judge men about this it might be much more effective to educate young men who can still be taught how to better care for women so the women they care for can better take care of the men rather than just one day turn on the men and poison them or something from all the abuse.

As a boy and young man growing up I was very aware of the abuse that women experienced. So, I took it upon myself as a responsibility to try to take better care of all women than they men I knew who had come before me just like many young men of my generation and ever since shouldered this new responsibility too. Sometimes, we were successful and sometimes not because people in general don't change very fast. However, in a top down sense of college educated people learning how to treat women better and likewise college educated women learning not to have to "live in denial" like many women had for thousands of years, much of the previous craziness between women and men including multiple fatalities of both sexes has been eliminated more than most places at least in the western civilized world.

I was also very happy to find on page 42 of the latest Time Magazine that the percentage of women in government worldwide has gone from 10% to 20% worldwide as per the in the middle of page 42. this is very good news indeed for the world.

However, I think the single most important thing that I can say is that even though men and women should have equal rights worldwide that men and women are very different than each other. So, I think a disservice has been done to both sexes to try to make men and women the same because they are not. They should be equal in the eyes of the law but as beings the way men and women are going to behave in different situations is completely different and always will be. So, though men and women should be equal under the law saying they are the same is ridiculous. It would be like you telling me that Apples and Oranges are the same. They are not. Apples have one kind of skin and oranges have another and the fruits taste different too.

Likewise with men and women both are completely psychologically different at every level. And there is no real way to even compare men and women in any logical way to make real sense of these differences.

I suppose a useful comparison might be anthropological where a women is interested in one quality mate whereas a male's biological imperative is the opposite completely and whose biological imperative is to impregnate as many females as possible. In fact, there is an English king named Edward that they are finding absolutely everyone in England (who has a long lineage there) is related to because he was with and impregnated so many many women during his reign as king. So, even though this is an extreme case, this is also how men tend to be (at least before AIDS). So, just in this one sense you can see just how completely different men and women are from the get go.

And this is but one of many differences in psychology and temperament. So, whenever you try to make men BE like Women they might do it for a while just to have sex with a woman. But in the end this is only going to be a LIE in an ultimate sense. Just because most men when younger than 40 or so will do almost anything for a woman to have sex with them including lying. And this is a given. And even though I am not a woman and have never been one in this lifetime I see every day just how different men are from women and there is no way to even compare the too. However, they should still be considered equal under the law all over earth and one day we will see this in actuality. And a 10% increase in women legislators worldwide since 1997 means we might be there by the end of this century.

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