What is possible then can become probable and then become actual

This is a true statement in all our lives. This also applies to not only every good thing we want but also to everything we do not want as well as to every relatively neutral thing in our lives as well.

When I look back at my life now I'm not entirely sure what I expected?

But, what happened at every single stage did not resemble anything I could have even imagined.

And this was in a good way, in a bad way and in a neutral way.

So, since the middle of the last century this has been my experience.

So, when people tell me their dreams I often want to tell them:

Life is what happens to you when you are making other plans.

Here is a good example, at 25 years of age before I met my first wife I remember telling my buddies: "Maybe I'll just have a succession of girlfriends like now and never get married!"

I meant this at the time. However, within a year of that statement I was married with a baby at age 26. This is just how fast things can change unexpectedly.

Was this good or bad that this happened?

Both. Because in life nothing is entirely good or bad it is mostly both at different times.

So, though I was happy to have my son I was less happy to be married to anyone at age 26. So, mostly what was good for me is that having a son and being married forced me to become much more responsible in every single way the rest of my life. So, I found myself jealous of other friends as they took risks and sometimes died or just stayed "silly and single" like a lot of men do.

So, I came to view people as "married with children" as grownups and I always sort of viewed everyone else sort of like teenagers who never fully grew up which is sort of the view that the married with children group of people often have about everyone else.

You aren't angry with them you just don't see them as very grown up simply because they never had to be.

But, for me, getting married and having a son literally saved my life because it kept me from taking risks that likely would have taken my life like other friends died from.

So, in some ways you don't know what the future is going to be as a teenager and young adult until it happens.

Recently, my God Daughter and her husband talked to me about having children in the next two years. I said children are completely unpredictable. So, planning for them is kind of ridiculous in the end.

You can financially plan for them. That's not the point.

The point is:

You don't know if you can get pregnant.
You don't know when you can get pregnant
You don't know if you and the child or children will survive at all
You don't know if the child will be healthy or not
You don't know the sex of the child
You don't know what effect you will have on that specific child
that being raised by you and your life will have upon that child
You don't know if any wars are going to take place while being present or raising that child
You don't know what will happen to your job or business

So, children from beginning to end are a complete unknown.

So, you can financially plan for them, but that doesn't mean they are going to show up and be there at all.

And children are only one aspect of life. There are thousands of others that people think are just going to fall in place somehow in their lives.

It might or it might not.

However, it doesn't hurt to be an optimist because it might just prevent you from offing yourself in the end.

So, I'm not writing this to discourage you in your lives.

I'm only writing this to say that life is a complete adventure which is unpredictable at every turn.

So, if you like adventures get ready for your life because life's a roller coaster whether we want it to be or not when we least expect it.

So, get ready for the adventure of your life.